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“If you’re presenting yourself with con dence, you can pull o pretty much anything.”
C on dence is feeling emotionally sure, secure and strong – it’s the opposite of feeling fearful, anxious or scared. It’s knowing in your heart that you are safe, capable and talented, and can accomplish, or at least try to accomplish, whatever it is
WHEN YOU’RE OUT AND ABOUT, DO YOU GENERALLY FIND OTHER PEOPLE:
Very friendly. Approachable.
OK – I don’t really notice. Generally unhelpful and sometimes difficult.
AT A WORKPLACE SOCIAL EVENT, DO YOU IMMEDIATELY:
Breeze up to the nearest person and start talking.
Take a deep breath and look for someone you know.
Take a quick look and if there’s no one you know, leave.
Never go to these events unless it’s with a friend. that you want to do. It’s all part of human nature to feel unsure about new situations, but it’s experiencing them that teaches us how to do things and gain con dence from doing them.
DO YOU FEEL THAT YOUR OPINION MATTERS?
Yes, but not everyone will agree with me.
No, no one’s interested. Don’t have an opinion.
IF YOU TRY SOMETHING
NEW AND IT DOESN’T WORK, DO YOU THINK:
It was fine.
I’ll have another go but maybe try differently. That always happens to me, I’m useless.
I won’t try that again.
WHEN YOU’VE COMPLETED A TASK SUCCESSFULLY, DO YOU THINK:
I knew I could do it.
I wasn’t sure, but I thought I probably could.
That was easier than I thought. That was a fluke, maybe
I got it wrong.
GIVEN A COMPLEX PROBLEM TO SOLVE, DO YOU:
Tackle it alone, pretty sure you can work it out.
Take a look and then ask for help. Take a look and then give up. Don’t bother to try, it’s too difficult.
IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE, DO YOU FEEL:
Fine, it’s just a mistake.
OK, but maybe I’ll try again differently. Terrible – such an idiot!
Furious with yourself and can’t let it go.
DO YOU FIND IT HARD TO SAY NO?
Never. Occasionally. Often. Always.
HOW SUCCESSFUL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE COMPARED TO YOUR PEER GROUP?
Generally, I’m more successful.
I don’t know, I don’t really make comparisons.
Everyone is more successful than me. I’m a complete failure by comparison.
HOW MUCH DO YOU CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU?
I don’t care at all. Generally, I only care what those I care about think of me.
Some days it matters more than others.
I judge everything by what others think of me.
IF YOUR SPOUSE/PARTNER/ LOVER DOES SOMETHING THAT UPSETS YOU, CAN YOU TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL?
Always. Often. Occasionally. Never.
THE NIGHT BEFORE AN IMPORTANT EXAM/TEST/ INTERVIEW, HOW WELL DO YOU SLEEP?
Fine – I've prepared well and I'm not worried.
Awake early, worrying.
Awake several times in the night, worrying.