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In the Moment - - Wellbeing -

Use em­pa­thy as a way of prac­tic­ing com­pas­sion in di­fi­cult sit­u­a­tions, or at times you feel ut­terly wronged. Lis­ten deeply to how the other per­son is feel­ing, try to see things from their per­spec­tive and do your best to un­der­stand. You may re­alise you have made some­one else feel that way in the past, too. No­body’s per­fect, right?

Prac­tice self-com­pas­sion as you sup­port your­self to let go. What’s done is done and ru­mi­nat­ing on the mat­ter is keep­ing you stuck in that mo­ment, which you wouldn’t rec­om­mend a friend should do. In­stead, gen­tly ask your­self: 'What do I need right now to help me move for­ward?' and take steps to meet your needs.

If you’re feel­ing over­come with re­sent­ment, take this op­por­tu­nity to bet­ter un­der­stand your­self. Al­low your­self to be with what­ever it is you are feel­ing, with­out blam­ing oth­ers, or your­self, for what arises. Sit with it as you let it un­fold and even­tu­ally melt away, sooth­ing your­self with the knowl­edge that it will pass in time, and ul­ti­mately you’re in con­trol of how you feel, not the other way around.

Give lov­ing-kind­ness (metta bha­vana) med­i­ta­tion a try. It will help to boost your well­be­ing and strengthen your com­pas­sion ahead of time – em­pow­er­ing you to choose love and ac­cep­tance more eas­ily. By work­ing on your in­ner peace, you’ll nd it much easier to stay bal­anced in po­ten­tially stress­ful sit­u­a­tions in­volv­ing other peo­ple.

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