He’s Missing The Point – I Didn’t Want Men To Like My Body
‘Dr Sigman claims “knowing what men think can serve as an antidote to the prevailing assumptions that feed body dissatisfaction”. Or, in other words: “It’s OK to eat cake, girls. Men prefer something to hold onto.”
As someone who used to suffer from anorexia, I know that male validation wouldn’t have made me feel any happier. When puberty hit and boys commented on my boobs, I didn’t feel better. In fact, one of the things I loved about getting thinner was that men stopped bothering me. Positive reinforcement from an uncle or grandfather wouldn’t have helped that – any kind of male judgement made me feel out of control.
Instead of telling women to listen to men’s positive comments about their bodies, we need to make sure men of all relation to us know we’re much more than our looks in the first place. If Dr Aric wants to help, he can encourage people to stop thinking about whether we’re hot or not in guys’ eyes, and start talking about what we can do.’