Jennifer Aniston: ‘I’m Fed Up With The Way Women Are Treated’
Look’s olivia Foster says Jen’s right: it’s time we changed the way we talk about women
When Jennifer Aniston released her ‘For The Record’ essay last week, addressing her feelings on those pregnancy rumours, her body, her husband and the pressures facing women in 2016, she did it in true Jen An fashion. She was calm, she was articulate and her message was clear. She is, in her own words, ‘fed up’.
She explained: ‘If I am some kind of symbol to some people out there, then clearly I am an example of the lens through which we, as a society, view our mothers, daughters, sisters, wives, female friends and colleagues. The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing.’
Undoubtedly the spate of stories and speculation in February – when the 47-year-old star was spotted on holiday in Mexico with hubby Justin Theroux, 44, and was forced to clarify that she was not with child but had just eaten a big meal – played a part in her decision to speak out to The Huffington Post.
There’s something about Jen that makes her the ‘everywoman’; as she says, ‘a symbol’. When she was unceremoniously dumped by Brad Pitt in 2005, we felt her pain – it reminded us of our own failed relationships. But maybe it’s time to admit that we’ve been very blinkered in our presumption that happiness should come in the shape of a man, a child, a perfect body. Like Jen says, we’re guilty of it in real life too. Asking that recently married friend if she’s planning to start a family soon; the single one if she’s met anyone; the one who has children when she might have more. We tell each other we look great when we’re thin, congratulating weight loss with breathless fever.
Should Jennifer actually have to come out and defend herself? Of course not. Is it a good thing that she did? Definitely. Jen has, once and for all, refused to let anyone control the narrative of her life. It’s been 11 long years since she and Brad split – 11 long years of split rumours and ‘baby news’ (she’s not pregnant, just FYI).
It’s also a good reminder to treat our friends and other women with a little more kindness, as more than baby-makers or girlfriends – to treat them as human beings. As Jen says: ‘We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone... We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete. We get to determine our own “happily ever after” for ourselves.’
We are complete With or Without a mate, With or Without a child
Read Jennifer Aniston’s piece at Huffingtonpost.com