‘We Were On Different Paths’
Lucy, 27, a financial adviser from Plymouth, tells us why she had to end it with her best mate after 10 years…
‘Amy and I met when we were 15. At college, we realised we shared an insane love for Friends quotes and a dislike for our history teacher who had terrible breath – and just like that, we were best mates. She was there for me when my boyfriend cheated on me. I covered for her when she’d go home with guys. We couldn’t have been tighter.
When I left for uni I was worried that our friendship would suffer, but actually it was the opposite. If anything, we got on more. But when I met a guy I liked, things started to change. Our single days had been full of wild nights out and I think she thought my meeting someone meant that had to come to an end. She wouldn’t text me for ages and then would ring me drunk at 1am to rant about her latest drama, but would never ask about me. I assumed it was a phase, but when I decided to go on holiday with my boyfriend, she went crazy and told me it was ruining her summer. I felt like a different side to her had started to surface.
We were still friends but if we went out in a group, she wouldn’t really talk to me. I asked her constantly if I’d done something
wrong and she’d say no.
I tried not to take it personally and assumed it was just a weird moment in our friendship. At the same time, I was going through a pretty hard time with my parents, who had decided to divorce. It took a few months for me to realise that I hadn’t really spoken to Amy about it. I called her a couple of times and she was really nice about it, but then we would arrange dinner to talk and more than once, she would cancel at the last minute. Seeing her on a night out with some other mates in a Facebook photo after she’d cancelled on me was the final straw.
The shift in my personal circumstances meant I was seeing everything in a different light. I realised I’d been giving her everything but when I needed support, she wasn’t around. I made the decision to meet up with her alone and tell her how I felt because I didn’t want to see her any more and I didn’t want it hanging over us.
When we met it was a bit awkward, but for once I was completely honest. She didn’t take it well and said that she felt I never bothered with her. But it just confirmed that we were on completely different paths. It did feel like a break-up and it did hurt, but I feel like we’re just better off apart. I have fond memories, but now I see the friends who make me feel better about myself and it all feels a lot less toxic. Sometimes you just need to end it and three months on, I have no regrets.’
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