+ ‘Why NOW Is The Right Time To Have A Baby’
While the world discusses whether Cheryl is starting a family with Liam already, we ask the experts if there’s such a thing as the ‘perfect age’
When it comes to fertility advice, women are constantly bombarded. Either we’re being warned against unplanned pregnancies or being told if we don’t have a child in the next five minutes we’re doomed. But is ‘the right time’ really a thing?
‘Women are born with a certain number of eggs. As we get older, the number and the quality of our eggs declines,’ says Professor Geeta Nargund, a specialist for the London Fertility Show. ‘It’s the reduced quality that leads to reduced fertility and an increased risk of miscarriage.’
Abby Nanson waited until she was almost 37 to have her first child: ‘I met my husband later in life. Before then, my career had taken up quite a lot of my time and energy. But working for so many years meant I had bought a house, a car and all the other things we needed. And we had enough money.’ However, she admits there were downsides: ‘I found the adjustment difficult. My husband does loads to help out but I had a difficult pregnancy.’
Meanwhile Dani Ferid, 25, who runs the blog Blonde Hair & Brown Eyes, found out she was pregnant at 20, while studying: ‘The pregnancy was challenging,’ she reveals. ‘I was still so young and all my friends were going on holidays. However, my partner and I fully embrace the fact that we’re young parents and all the things will still be there for us in our thirties and forties.’
Butwhileageisahugepartofit,ourexperts insist there’s no real ‘right time’. ‘Ultimately a baby is always a huge challenge and there’s no perfect time. Women often wait for their career to be in the right place or to have the right kind of house but this concept of readiness can be damaging because there will always be something to “fix” before you have children,’ says Beth Follini who runs Tick Tock Coaching, providing guidance to women who are unsure about starting a family. ‘Most of my clients are aged between 30and35, whichisagoodtimetobegivingitsomeserious thought – but there’s no need to panic.’