ANGRY? ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE
Long hours, low wages and a lifetime of renting – it’s no surprise that we’re absolutely raging…
Rage: the four-letter word that seems to crop up constantly at the moment. Whether it’s raging at a colleague about their missed deadline or shouting at the TV every time Trump appears, we are Generation Angry. Even swearing is on the rise, with a recent Scottish survey revealing the use of the word ‘f**k’ is up by 500 per cent since the 90s. S**t, that’s a lot.
So why are we so angry? Experts say it’s because of our financial situation: we’re the ones paying extortionate rents (a total of £53,000 by the time we’re 30), working longer hours (for on average £8,000 less in our twenties than our predecessors), struggling with the strain of student debts, being ghosted on Tinder and facing the consequences of a referendum that 73 per cent of young people were against.
‘A lot of my younger clients are still living at home because they just can’t afford to move out,’ says psychologist Glenn Mason. ‘They’re working longer hours, which can mean more stress, less time to socialise and higher rates of anxiety. That’s going to affect their emotional health and wellbeing.’ It’s no surprise that home ownership plays a huge part. Just under half of millennials believe they’ll never be able to afford their own home. Glenn adds: ‘Psychologists are arguing that the end of adolescence should be increased to 25. Many years ago, people would have moved out at 18, got married, had kids and so on. Whereas now, that’s not the developmental pattern that people are following.’
Then there’s social media. With 75 per cent of millennials having at least one account, it’s a huge part of our lives. It’s leading to what Glenn calls ‘the comparison trap’ where we idolise others and berate ourselves for not having their Insta-perfect lives.
It all helps contribute to the fact that millennials are a very tightly wound group indeed. According to the British Association Of Anger Management, 45 per cent of UK adults regularly lose their temper at work, 1 in 20 have had a fight with their neighbour and more than half of us have hit our computer in anger.
But we can improve. According to Glenn, there are steps you can take. ‘Anger is never the problem; it’s how we manage and deal with it that’s the issue. An example I often use with clients is to imagine yourself like a balloon. You’ve got all this air pumping in and eventually it’s going to explode.
‘I talk about ways to snip a hole in the balloon. All that stress is still going to be going in but if we’ve got a couple of strategies in place, such as talking to people, physical exercise or diet, being aware of our alcohol intake and drugs, it’s going to help manage the anger.’
Be right back, we’re off for a long walk and an afternoon natter…
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