AN­GRY? ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE

Long hours, low wages and a life­time of rent­ing – it’s no sur­prise that we’re ab­so­lutely rag­ing…

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Rage: the four-let­ter word that seems to crop up con­stantly at the mo­ment. Whether it’s rag­ing at a col­league about their missed dead­line or shout­ing at the TV ev­ery time Trump ap­pears, we are Gen­er­a­tion An­gry. Even swear­ing is on the rise, with a re­cent Scot­tish sur­vey re­veal­ing the use of the word ‘f**k’ is up by 500 per cent since the 90s. S**t, that’s a lot.

So why are we so an­gry? Ex­perts say it’s be­cause of our fi­nan­cial sit­u­a­tion: we’re the ones pay­ing ex­tor­tion­ate rents (a to­tal of £53,000 by the time we’re 30), work­ing longer hours (for on av­er­age £8,000 less in our twen­ties than our pre­de­ces­sors), strug­gling with the strain of stu­dent debts, be­ing ghosted on Tin­der and fac­ing the con­se­quences of a ref­er­en­dum that 73 per cent of young peo­ple were against.

‘A lot of my younger clients are still liv­ing at home be­cause they just can’t af­ford to move out,’ says psy­chol­o­gist Glenn Ma­son. ‘They’re work­ing longer hours, which can mean more stress, less time to so­cialise and higher rates of anx­i­ety. That’s go­ing to af­fect their emo­tional health and well­be­ing.’ It’s no sur­prise that home own­er­ship plays a huge part. Just un­der half of mil­len­ni­als be­lieve they’ll never be able to af­ford their own home. Glenn adds: ‘Psy­chol­o­gists are ar­gu­ing that the end of ado­les­cence should be in­creased to 25. Many years ago, peo­ple would have moved out at 18, got mar­ried, had kids and so on. Whereas now, that’s not the de­vel­op­men­tal pat­tern that peo­ple are fol­low­ing.’

Then there’s so­cial me­dia. With 75 per cent of mil­len­ni­als hav­ing at least one ac­count, it’s a huge part of our lives. It’s lead­ing to what Glenn calls ‘the com­par­i­son trap’ where we idolise oth­ers and be­rate our­selves for not hav­ing their Insta-per­fect lives.

It all helps con­trib­ute to the fact that mil­len­ni­als are a very tightly wound group in­deed. Ac­cord­ing to the Bri­tish As­so­ci­a­tion Of Anger Man­age­ment, 45 per cent of UK adults reg­u­larly lose their tem­per at work, 1 in 20 have had a fight with their neigh­bour and more than half of us have hit our com­puter in anger.

But we can im­prove. Ac­cord­ing to Glenn, there are steps you can take. ‘Anger is never the prob­lem; it’s how we man­age and deal with it that’s the is­sue. An ex­am­ple I often use with clients is to imag­ine your­self like a bal­loon. You’ve got all this air pump­ing in and even­tu­ally it’s go­ing to ex­plode.

‘I talk about ways to snip a hole in the bal­loon. All that stress is still go­ing to be go­ing in but if we’ve got a cou­ple of strate­gies in place, such as talk­ing to peo­ple, phys­i­cal ex­er­cise or diet, be­ing aware of our al­co­hol in­take and drugs, it’s go­ing to help man­age the anger.’

Be right back, we’re off for a long walk and an af­ter­noon nat­ter…

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