10 minutes to... Beat Blue monday
We asked Jo Usmar, author of This Book Will Make You Fearless, for her top tips on how to drastically improve your mood – today!
1 Give yourself a worry budget Give yourself a ‘budget’ of 10 worries a day. Rationing your worries will make you realise that fretting doesn’t make you feel better or solve anything –taking action does.
2 Say ‘I don’t’ instead of ‘I can’t’ ‘I can’t’ suggests a limitation, whereas ‘I don’t’ suggests a choice. Saying ‘I don’t have arguments’ is much stronger than ‘I can’t deal with arguments.’
3 Do something you’ll be rubbish at If there’s a talent you’re sure you don’t have, then try it. Terrified of spinning? Sign up for a class. Can’t carry a tune? Join a choir. Force yourself to face your limitations and you’ll be surprised at the positive effect it can have. You won’t be great at everything, but remember and accept that fact. Because how else would you grow?
4 Use the epitaph strategy Think about what your epitaph would say if it was written today. Would it say ‘Lucy spent lots of time trying to be a size 10’ or ‘Lucy was fun, caring and loyal’? Think about who you would rather know and focus on being that person.
5 Re-think failure Every time you get rejected, you’ve found one thing that didn’t work. Think of it as practice.
6 Remove ‘risk’ from your dictionary Risk suggests danger, which means you automatically don’t want to do it. Remove risk and use ‘chance’ or ‘opportunity’ to think positively.
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