10 boost min­utes Your to... dat­ing game

Modern ro­mance is a mine­field, so we asked dat­ing guru James Preece for his top tips

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1 Re­think your photo Make sure your main pro­file pic is a happy, smil­ing head­shot – you’ll get more matches if you look ap­proach­able. Stick to a max­i­mum of five and one of your pho­tos needs to be a talk­ing point. This makes it much eas­ier for peo­ple to start a con­ver­sa­tion with you. In other words, you’ll get fewer low- ef­fort ‘hi’ messages.

2 Be proac­tive Dat­ing apps aren’t a mag­i­cal so­lu­tion – you must put in the ef­fort if you want to make it work. Don’t just sit back and wait for peo­ple to con­tact you – proac­tively reach out to the ones you like. If all else fails, try chang­ing your pho­tos or up­load­ing ex­tra ones. They could make all the dif­fer­ence.

3 Tim­ing is ev­ery­thing Sug­gest go­ing for a drink after a few messages. I also al­ways ad­vise the one thing most peo­ple are too scared to do – speak on the phone! That way you get to know them quickly. When it comes to the first date, keep it short. Don’t get hung up on any awk­ward si­lences ei­ther – a nat­u­ral break is a good thing. If you like them, let them know and don’t play too hard to get. The next morn­ing is a good time to text them a ‘thanks’ or ‘great night’ mes­sage.

4 Think about body lan­guage The eyes are the big­gest give­away. Pupils di­late when some­one likes what they see and they’ll keep their gaze on the ‘flirt­ing tri­an­gle’. This is the area be­tween the eyes and the mouth. If you do the same, you’ll have much deeper, more in­ti­mate con­ver­sa­tions. 5 Safety first When it comes to set­ting up your pro­file, be hon­est or you risk in­stant dis­ap­point­ment. If you aren’t sure about some­one, then you don’t need to keep talk­ing. If they say some­thing in­ap­pro­pri­ate, re­port them and save some­one else from the same bad ex­pe­ri­ence.

Swipe right for Mr Right (OK, and that ASOS dress you’ve been eye­ing up)

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