10 boost minutes Your to... dating game
Modern romance is a minefield, so we asked dating guru James Preece for his top tips
1 Rethink your photo Make sure your main profile pic is a happy, smiling headshot – you’ll get more matches if you look approachable. Stick to a maximum of five and one of your photos needs to be a talking point. This makes it much easier for people to start a conversation with you. In other words, you’ll get fewer low- effort ‘hi’ messages.
2 Be proactive Dating apps aren’t a magical solution – you must put in the effort if you want to make it work. Don’t just sit back and wait for people to contact you – proactively reach out to the ones you like. If all else fails, try changing your photos or uploading extra ones. They could make all the difference.
3 Timing is everything Suggest going for a drink after a few messages. I also always advise the one thing most people are too scared to do – speak on the phone! That way you get to know them quickly. When it comes to the first date, keep it short. Don’t get hung up on any awkward silences either – a natural break is a good thing. If you like them, let them know and don’t play too hard to get. The next morning is a good time to text them a ‘thanks’ or ‘great night’ message.
4 Think about body language The eyes are the biggest giveaway. Pupils dilate when someone likes what they see and they’ll keep their gaze on the ‘flirting triangle’. This is the area between the eyes and the mouth. If you do the same, you’ll have much deeper, more intimate conversations. 5 Safety first When it comes to setting up your profile, be honest or you risk instant disappointment. If you aren’t sure about someone, then you don’t need to keep talking. If they say something inappropriate, report them and save someone else from the same bad experience.
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