‘I’ve turned Into a Teenager’

A new sur­vey re­veals over a quar­ter of us are back with our par­ents in a bid to get on the prop­erty lad­der. But what’s it re­ally like?

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It seems as if there’s a new sur­vey ev­ery day about the sorry state of the hous­ing mar­ket for mil­len­ni­als. Not only can we not af­ford a de­posit, but there’s a se­vere short­age of houses be­ing built. Over the past year, while prop­erty prices have crept up by 7.5 per cent, wages have only in­creased by 1.9 per cent. It’s de­press­ing read­ing.

A study last week re­vealed that only a third of mil­len­ni­als can af­ford to buy a house and, of those sur­veyed, 35 per cent head to the bank of mum and dad for fi­nan­cial help, while a huge 27 per cent re­turn to ac­tu­ally live with our mums and dads in a bid to save for the pur­chase. But what ef­fect can that ac­tu­ally have on your home life?

‘I moved back in with my par­ents in De­cem­ber, af­ter liv­ing in Lon­don with mates for two years,’ says Karen, 28, who works in pub­lish­ing. ‘I des­per­ately want to buy my own place, but there’s no way I could have saved enough – this was the last op­tion. It was fun at first as my mum fussed over me and it was nice com­ing home to din­ner on the table. Now, as much as a “How was your day?” is enough to drive me mad. I feel like I’ve turned into a teenager again.’

Ac­cord­ing to our psy­chol­o­gists, this re­gres­sion is com­mon – and it can be harm­ful to your health. ‘There are many stres­sors in­volved in mov­ing back with par­ents,’ says psy­chol­o­gist Dr Arthur Cas­sidy. ‘Mak­ing com­pro­mises can cause con­flict and raise ten­sions. Many par­ents will see their off­spring as “guests” in their home and if they fail to con­form to cer­tain cri­te­ria or dis­turb par­ents’ sleep rou­tines, for ex­am­ple, it causes stress for both par­ties.’ Ouch. Not good. No won­der mil­len­ni­als are be­ing la­belled ‘the anx­ious gen­er­a­tion’.

So what’s to be done? The Gov­ern­ment has ad­mit­ted the hous­ing mar­ket is ‘bro­ken’ and vowed to build more homes, but that’s not re­ally help­ing us right now. All we can hope is that the more we talk about the is­sue to­gether, the quicker the so­lu­tions will come.

We can’t just stroll around in our undies

Mak­ing com­pro­mises can cause stress and anx­i­ety for both par­ties

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