THE POWER OF THE COMPLIMENT
In this week’s Confidence Issue, we’re taking to social media to dish out as many feelgood compliments as possibleé
Club bathrooms: we huddle around the sinks, gushing over each other’s outfits and exchanging contouring tips. They’ve become the place we give compliments. Imagine: what if we were this kind to each other (and ourselves) all the time? In this week’s Confidence Issue, we’re championing the power of the compliment – and you can get involved too.
Despite us Brits being renowned for accepting compliments terribly (the dress was on sale, our good hair day is a total fluke and we definitely didn’t wake up like this), they do make a huge difference to our self-esteem – which is why this week we’re taking to our social media channels to spread the love. Paying compliments forward (AKA passing them on), we’ll be posting as many confidence-boosting comments as possible.
It’s not just our self-esteem that’s set to climb, either. According to a study in Japan, compliments have the ability to make us perform better too. During the study, participants were split into three groups and given a set task. The results found those who were directly complimented performed significantly better than those who weren’t. In fact, researchers found being complimented had the same effect as receiving a cash reward.
According to psychoanalyst Dr Jane Goldberg, giving compliments (and specifically paying them forward) can make a huge difference to our confidence and our motivation levels.
‘From the moment we’re born, we crave positive feedback,’ says Dr Goldberg. ‘Compliments are basically verbal hugs. They touch our feelings and connect us to one another. When you pay someone a compliment, you’re helping them thrive and instantly boosting their mood. Life needs to be about thriving – doing well and living exuberantly. When you get a compliment, give one back, knowing its power.’
With that in mind, we’re off to spread the love online, so keep your eyes peeled – and #payitforward.
Compliments are basically verbal hugs
Compliments connect us to one another