SEX FO­RUM Sex with a love rat is a real let­down

Midweek Sport - - NEWS - By JUSTIN DUNN

Ad­ven­tur­ous

SEX cheats have worse nookie than peo­ple who re­main faith­ful, ac­cord­ing to a new study.

Peo­ple who steal some­one else’s lover have less ro­man­tic suc­cess than cou­ples who get to­gether when both par­ties were sin­gle.

The phe­nom­e­non – known as “mate poach­ing” – was an­a­lysed by re­searchers from the Jour­nal of Re­search in Per­son­al­ity.

Re­searchers com­pared the ex­pe­ri­ences of 100 cou­ples – 50 who got to­gether when they were sin­gle and 50 when one or both of the part­ners were poached.

The study found that those lured away from another re­la­tion­ship tend to be less sat­is­fied with and com­mit­ted to their new re­la­tion­ship.

Poached part­ners were also more likely to be un­faith­ful.

They con­stantly be­lieved that there were bet­ter al­ter­na­tives to their cur­rent re­la­tion­ship and spent more time think­ing about those al­ter­na­tives.

Psy­chol­o­gist Justin J Lehmiller, who an­a­lysed the find­ings, said: “Steal­ing some­one away from their ro­man­tic part­ner doesn’t seem like the best recipe for re­la­tion­ship suc­cess.

“Poached part­ners don’t seen as happy with or com­mit­ted to their re­la­tion­ships, and they do not seem to feel as many qualms about cheat­ing in the fu­ture.”

Tracey Cox, who has her own range of sex toys with Love­honey, said cheat­ing isn’t al­ways bad for a re­la­tion­ship and can be the wake-up call some cou­ples needed.

She said: “If your part­ner has been desperately try­ing to tell you they’re un­happy but not feel­ing heard, cheat­ing might well be a cry for help.”

Love­honey sur­veys show that peo­ple in long-term, com­mit­ted re­la­tion­ships en­joy the most sex and the best sex.

Three-quarters of Love­honey’s sales are to cou­ples who share sex toys to­gether.

Stunna Amanda Thatcham, 19 – sin­gle since split­ting with her boyfriend ear­lier this year – agreed.

The 32B brunette from Wi­gan said: “There’s noth­ing dull about hav­ing the best sex ever with a per­son you com­pletely trust.

“I’m cer­tainly a LOT more ad­ven­tur­ous in the bed­room with some­one who’s com­pletely com­mit­ted to me.”

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