Q I am finding it hard to write my birth plan. Where do I start?
Sara Watson, Suffolk
Firstly, understand that your birth plan is a guideline rather than a fixed decree. The word ‘plan’ suggests you can predict what will happen, so it can come as a shock if things veer off course. The last thing you want to do is feel like things ‘didn’t go right’. I prefer to think of this task as assessing your options. It is a good idea to research all avenues. Writing things down will organise in your mind what scenarios you’re drawn to: where would you like to have your baby? Who would you like present? What type of pain relief would suit? Remember you’re allowed to change your mind. Being open to all birth routes will equip you for feeling like you haven’t lost control if your birth story unfolds in a narrative you hadn’t predicted.