‘Our bumps brought us closer than ever’
“Shall we have a joint baby shower?” my best friend Victoria asked. We were sitting in the car discussing my upcoming party, and it took me a minute to grasp exactly what she meant. But then the penny dropped: she was pregnant too! I’d told Victoria that I was expecting a baby early on, as I was hospitalised at six weeks with hyperemesis gravidarum (severe morning sickness). We constantly message each other normally, so I’d had to explain why I’d suddenly fallen off the face of the earth!
I was absolutely delighted to find out she was just a few weeks behind me. And it was pretty cool to know my baby already had a ready-made BFF, too.
Victoria and I have been best friends for 10 years, meeting through my husband, James, who went to university with her and her husband Andrew. We already spent our weekends and holidays together, and worked on our blog, She & Hem, writing about clothes and fashion. But from the moment Victoria told me her news, we did everything together. One of my favourite memories is going to pregnancy yoga. We’d meet for the weekly session halfway between our houses and then walk to the class. When we started, our bumps were quite small, so we’d skip down the road quite happily. But by the end we were waddling along!
Just being able to ask Victoria: “Is this normal?” or “Are you experiencing this too?” was fantastic. When you’re pregnant, there are so many changes to deal with, and being able to reassure and be reassured by my best friend made such a difference. I wouldn’t like to count how many messages we sent to each other during those months!
Two weeks before I gave birth, we had our joint baby shower. And then we started to enjoy being first-time mums together. We messaged each other at 3am when no-one else was awake. And we’d set up camp in each other’s homes during the day, getting ourselves comfy feeding the girls on the sofa, watching TV and taking it in turns to fetch water and chocolate. We couldn’t have planned it any better if we’d have tried!’
Jo (right) with Victoria
Ada (left) with Poppy Jo and Poppy (left) with Victoria and Ada