I Worry She’s Ne­glect­ing Her Stud­ies

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QMy grand­daugh­ter has al­ways been good at sports and now that she’s 13, she is play­ing ladies foot­ball at county and na­tional level. Her par­ents are de­lighted and very proud, but I’m wor­ried that they’re en­cour­ag­ing her to put all her eggs in one bas­ket. I wish they’d do more to en­cour­age her to stick in at her stud­ies in­stead of run­ning her to foot­ball prac­tice all the time. Why are they be­ing so short-sighted?

AIt must be such a mixed bless­ing to have such a gifted grand­child – pride at her sports suc­cess cou­pled with anx­i­ety about her ed­u­ca­tion.

It would be worth re­search­ing the sports or­gan­i­sa­tion to re­as­sure your­self that they do recog­nise this dilemma and en­sure the sport­ing side is bal­anced with other ar­eas of life. Have a chat to the or­gan­is­ers.

How­ever, at the end of the day the di­rect re­spon­si­bil­ity is with her par­ents.

They can de­ter­mine how much time is spent in each area. But why don’t you plan to meet up with her mother – just the two of you? Then bring up your pride in her suc­cess, but also your con­cerns.

You may find it has al­ready been ex­plored and plans made, or if they’ve de­cided to re­duce the aca­demic side they may still be will­ing to hear from you. It’s no se­cret that many teenagers at the Olympics are jug­gling sport ex­cel­lence and stud­ies.

You must start the dis­cus­sion with pride and praise; that way they will be grate­ful for your sup­port. It’s not straight­for­ward and your help and ad­vice may well be wel­comed.

Fam­i­lies are im­por­tant. Some­times we just have to make the best of our chil­dren’s choices – as dis­ap­point­ing as they may ap­pear at times.

You have to make the best of your chil­dren’s choices, even if you’re dis­ap­pointed

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