My Lovely Grandson Is A Real Handful!
Q My four-year-old grandson is lovely, but he is a handful! He runs everywhere, never sits still and is a real live wire. I can cope with that, but he never does what I tell him. I dread meeting friends when I’m with him because he’s so wild. My daughter doesn’t seem to have a problem with him, so why won’t he do a thing I say? A I must just say how great it is that you are able to spend time with your grandson and take him with you to meet your friends. But I understand that a four-year-old “storm” is hard to manage. All children are different – some more docile, others more active. At four it’s hard to grasp adult concepts, especially the word “no”! If he behaves differently with your daughter it may be that the problem lies between the two of you. Have you discussed this with your daughter? She may be able to shed light on it. An honest conversation may reveal more, as this is extreme behaviour. You say your daughter appears to cope well, so perhaps she has an understanding with him. In any case, I’m sure she’d appreciate the chance to talk more about her son.
The other issue is whether he has a hyperactivity syndrome. Hyperactivity has many different characteristics – constant movement, aggressive behaviour, impulsive behaviour and being easily distracted. If your daughter suspects this may be a possibility, she should consider booking a consultation with his GP.
It’s wonder ful that you’re available to him as you both benefit, but maybe not with your friends unless you can recruit them to help with the word no!
You need an honest conversation with your daughter to reach an understanding
You need to set limits