My Lovely Grand­son Is A Real Hand­ful!

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Q My four-year-old grand­son is lovely, but he is a hand­ful! He runs ev­ery­where, never sits still and is a real live wire. I can cope with that, but he never does what I tell him. I dread meet­ing friends when I’m with him be­cause he’s so wild. My daugh­ter doesn’t seem to have a prob­lem with him, so why won’t he do a thing I say? A I must just say how great it is that you are able to spend time with your grand­son and take him with you to meet your friends. But I un­der­stand that a four-year-old “storm” is hard to man­age. All chil­dren are dif­fer­ent – some more docile, oth­ers more ac­tive. At four it’s hard to grasp adult con­cepts, es­pe­cially the word “no”! If he be­haves dif­fer­ently with your daugh­ter it may be that the prob­lem lies be­tween the two of you. Have you dis­cussed this with your daugh­ter? She may be able to shed light on it. An hon­est con­ver­sa­tion may re­veal more, as this is ex­treme be­hav­iour. You say your daugh­ter ap­pears to cope well, so per­haps she has an un­der­stand­ing with him. In any case, I’m sure she’d ap­pre­ci­ate the chance to talk more about her son.

The other is­sue is whether he has a hy­per­ac­tiv­ity syn­drome. Hy­per­ac­tiv­ity has many dif­fer­ent char­ac­ter­is­tics – con­stant move­ment, ag­gres­sive be­hav­iour, im­pul­sive be­hav­iour and be­ing eas­ily dis­tracted. If your daugh­ter sus­pects this may be a pos­si­bil­ity, she should con­sider book­ing a con­sul­ta­tion with his GP.

It’s won­der ful that you’re avail­able to him as you both ben­e­fit, but maybe not with your friends un­less you can re­cruit them to help with the word no!

You need an hon­est con­ver­sa­tion with your daugh­ter to reach an un­der­stand­ing

You need to set lim­its

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