Real-life: ‘How I Met My Partner’
When I was 37 and looking for love, I felt like I was at a dead end because all of my friends were married or had kids. It was harder to meet new people because we couldn’t all go out socialising in the same way that we used to. I found myself sitting in the house almost every night with a glass of Coca-cola and a bag of crisps. All I could think was, ‘Is this going to be my life?’. I was a bit lonely if I’m being honest, I did see my friends but not often because they had their own families to get on with. I decided I had to do something about it. I felt a little left behind. I knew someone who’d put adverts in the local papers in the hope of finding a companion. So, I took a huge gulp and decided to place an ad in the ‘lonely hearts’ column of my local newspaper.
Taking the plunge... I had to write a short description of myself and what I was hoping to find. I remember writing that I was looking for a non-smoker, aged 35-45 and someone who enjoyed going out socialising. Men who were interested would leave their phone number and if you wanted to meet up with them or chat more you would just give them a ring, you didn’t have to meet or talk to anyone you didn’t want to. A lot of my friends were naturally concerned, they asked me if I was sure I wanted to do it. When I was going on a date with one of the men, I’d always leave them a note of what I was wearing and where I was going just in case. For around 18 months I found myself being wined and dined, it was great fun. I met a lot of different people, but none of them ever came to anything. I met people who’d answered my ad because they thought they were exactly what I was looking for, but then I’d actually meet them and they were far from it. I went to meet a guy once and didn’t even set foot into the bar with him – I just knew straight away that we were going to have absolutely nothing in common.
Finding my soul mate... I finally met my husband Stewart in April of 1993 and we fell in love straight away. We went out together a couple of times doing different things, just the usual kind of dates like going to the movies or out for dinner. He actually called me an angel at the time, but I’m not so sure if he would call me that now. When I met Stewart he described himself as a Phil Collins lookalike and I couldn’t really work out in what way. What he actually meant was that he was going bald and that was his way of putting it! And all these years later he still makes me laugh every day. When my friends and family met Stewart they knew he was a great guy. Nobody advised me to stay away from him – they all loved him. Stewart and I booked a holiday to Las Vegas, after we had been together for 10 years. There were eight of us in total going on holiday and some of our friends had suggested that we tie the knot while we were there. We thought to ourselves, ‘Why not?’. We headed to the Courthouse in Vegas to get our marriage licence and we had a traditional themed wedding. Our friend who was with us plays the bagpipes and had brought them with him, so we were able to walk out of the chapel to the sound of the Scottish bagpipes. It really was lovely. Apart from the money it cost us to get to Vegas, it was the cheapest wedding on earth; I think it cost a total of £93.15. I know Stewart and I were meant to be; he was just there waiting for me. I certainly don’t know if anyone else has been as lucky as I have.
Faith Waddell, 57, from North Lanarkshire put an advert for love in a local newspaper
Faith with her husband, Stewart