Through an app
Carina, 42, originally from the Isle of Lewis, found the man of her dreams on an app
Imet my partner in 2008, I had been travelling in Australia and before I’d left, my friends had been harassing me to get on social media. I kept saying, “Look, if people want to get know me they can just come and speak to me”. I had no desire to put all my details onto a networking site. When I returned from Australia, I don’t know what made me do it, but I finally decided to make a Facebook account. On the site there was an application called ‘Are You Interested?’ I always joke that it should have been called, ‘Are You Desperate?’. People upload their picture, name and age, and then you can click to let them whether you are interested or not. I had previously had such a rough run of luck with men and thought I might as well give it a try – I wasn’t pinning all my hopes on finding someone.
My first answer was no... I was looking through all the different pictures of people on the app and my (now) partner Alan’s picture came up, believe it or not I replied saying no, I wasn’t interested. His picture kept coming up and for some reason it was always catching my eye, so eventually I clicked yes. We then became friends on Facebook so were able to see a bit more about each other. I discovered we had a lot in common; we had both been to Australia, both liked football, we actually supported the same team. We started private messaging each other. One night I was back home on the Isle of Lewis and I think I must have had too many wines because, when I realised I had a message from Alan, I just took the bull by the horns and asked if he wanted to meet up in Glasgow. It felt like we were going on a complete blind date, we might have known what each other looked like but we didn’t properly know each other.
Anxious about meeting him... I was worried that Alan was going to turn out to be something other than what he had made himself out to be. You’re just going by a picture on someone’s profile and a little bit of chat, so you have to be bold, but you also have to be careful. Prior to the date I had asked my friend to call me an hour and a half into the date in case I needed rescued, but when my friend called I was having such a good time I didn’t need rescued! It didn’t take me a long time to fall for Alan, I knew within a couple of weeks that he was the one. There was just something about his picture that drew me to him. Although I clicked no the first time, I thought he was a gorgeous and was just convinced that there had to be a catch. I kept asking him if there was something he wasn’t telling me – I was worried I was going to turn up and he was only 3ft 2in or something like that! After being together for around three years, Alan and I got married in July 2011 and I can safely say it was an absolutely great day. Our wedding was very relaxed and a lot of fun – at one point I had kicked my heels off and dancing to YMCA! I’ve always thought that you can tell the measure of a man by how he acts around children and animals. Alan is great with both, which says a lot. He is such a thoughtful and romantic person; he truly does make me happy.
Carina with her husband, Alan