Stay calm dur­ing your wed­ding plan­ning

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So you got en­gaged, ex­pect­ing life to be all ‘cham­pagne and shop­ping’ but what you ac­tu­ally got was a whop­ping great to-do list and a whole load of sleep­less nights? We hear you. Plan­ning a wed­ding is the most ex­cit­ing thing, but it also de­mands an aw­ful lot of time, diplo­macy and pri­ori­ti­sa­tion. Throw in some work stress and the 48 What­sApp mes­sages you haven’t read yet and you’re head­ing for Melt­down City.


But be­fore you chuck your iPhone in a pud­dle and check into a silent re­treat, why not try a bit of mind­ful­ness? As a form of med­i­ta­tion, it can help you take back con­trol of things and find some in­ner zen. “Mind­ful­ness helps us be­come more aware of our thoughts and feel­ings so that in­stead of be­ing over­whelmed by them, we’re bet­ter able to cope with them,” says Cal Strode, Se­nior Me­dia Of­fi­cer at the Men­tal Health Foun­da­tion (be­mind­ful.co.uk).

It’s all about be­ing ‘in the mo­ment’ – whether you’re brush­ing your teeth or say­ing your vows, learn­ing to en­joy the here and now rather than al­ways wor­ry­ing about some­thing else can dra­mat­i­cally boost your hap­pi­ness lev­els. “Mind­ful­ness might sound sim­ple but it has been proven to have a big im­pact in re­duc­ing lev­els of stress and anx­i­ety,” con­tin­ues Cal. “Once learnt, rather than just go­ing through the mo­tions, we can be more present and aware. For ex­am­ple, when you take a shower, fo­cus your mind on the stream of wa­ter, the sen­sa­tion of each drop as it hits you and the sounds of the run­ning wa­ter as it splashes.”

But where do we be­gin? “There are lots of dif­fer­ent ways to try mind­ful­ness and med­i­ta­tion but my be­lief is the best way to start is just to start and find what­ever is the eas­i­est and most fun thing for you per­son­ally,” says Ro­han Gu­natil­lake, au­thor of new book Mod­ern Mind­ful­ness. “So if you’re into apps, try an app or if you’re a YouTube junky, find some­thing there. Mind­ful­ness is a di­rect ex­pe­ri­ence so it is some­thing we have to try, but if you’re in­ter­ested in giv­ing it a go then that’s the hard work done!”


Yoga is an­other good way to start your jour­ney to zen – it will not only teach you how to breathe prop­erly (re­duc­ing ten­sion and im­prov­ing fo­cus), but also make you more aware of your own body, which in turn will help with your pos­ture.

Whether you’re look­ing for a quick stress re­liever or a life-long change, mind­ful­ness is an an­cient tech­nique with very mod­ern ben­e­fits. “It helps us re­ally con­nect with and ap­pre­ci­ate the good things in our lives – and wed­ding plan­ning is def­i­nitely full of those!” says Ro­han, who used mind­ful tech­niques when plan­ning his own wed­ding. “On the day it­self, there is so much hap­pen­ing and so many mo­ments to en­joy that if we are able to be present and less caught up in wor­ry­ing about ev­ery­thing be­ing per­fect, then we are def­i­nitely go­ing to have a good ex­pe­ri­ence. And should the oc­ca­sional drama hap­pen, then you’ll be in bet­ter shape to roll with it.”


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