Your Dilemma: Should I Tell Nan I’m Gay?

So­phie, 23, South Lon­don

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Af­ter years of strug­gling with my sex­u­al­ity, I’ve been in a won­der­ful re­la­tion­ship with an­other woman for the past six months. Re­cently, I came out to my par­ents and they were very sup­port­ive and happy for me, and got on well with my girl­friend when they met her.

How­ever, I’ve only got one grand­par­ent still alive, my dad’s mum. We’re close and I want to come out to her, too.

How­ever, Dad has warned me not to and said if Nan heard I was gay, she’d be up­set.

She’s quite re­li­gious. When­ever I go round to visit, she asks if I have a boyfriend and I feel too guilty ly­ing to her.

Should I tell Nan that I’m gay? YES Pick Me Up! reader Jackie Wil­son says: ‘Your nan will have to deal with the sit­u­a­tion, just like friends and fam­ily did. Her age and re­li­gious be­liefs are ir­rel­e­vant. This is your life and you want to be your­self around those clos­est to you. At the end of the day, you’re her flesh and blood, so if you want to tell your nan, just do it!’ NO Pick Me Up! reader Char­lotte Mcdougall says: Ôyou need to see this as be­ing a case of what she does­nõt know wonõt hurt her. Older peo­ple are from a dif­fer­ent gen­er­a­tion with dif­fer­ent val­ues. Ask your­self if this is worth maybe los­ing your nan over? I think itõs OK to keep cer­tain things pri­vate. You should­nõt feel guilty Ð youõre pro­tect­ing some­oneõs feel­ings.õ

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