Your Dilemma: Should I Tell Nan I’m Gay?
Sophie, 23, South London
After years of struggling with my sexuality, I’ve been in a wonderful relationship with another woman for the past six months. Recently, I came out to my parents and they were very supportive and happy for me, and got on well with my girlfriend when they met her.
However, I’ve only got one grandparent still alive, my dad’s mum. We’re close and I want to come out to her, too.
However, Dad has warned me not to and said if Nan heard I was gay, she’d be upset.
She’s quite religious. Whenever I go round to visit, she asks if I have a boyfriend and I feel too guilty lying to her.
Should I tell Nan that I’m gay? YES Pick Me Up! reader Jackie Wilson says: ‘Your nan will have to deal with the situation, just like friends and family did. Her age and religious beliefs are irrelevant. This is your life and you want to be yourself around those closest to you. At the end of the day, you’re her flesh and blood, so if you want to tell your nan, just do it!’ NO Pick Me Up! reader Charlotte Mcdougall says: Ôyou need to see this as being a case of what she doesnõt know wonõt hurt her. Older people are from a different generation with different values. Ask yourself if this is worth maybe losing your nan over? I think itõs OK to keep certain things private. You shouldnõt feel guilty Ð youõre protecting someoneõs feelings.õ