Ask Her To Cover Up?
Lynette, 28, Bolton
My daughter, 6, and son, 4, go to their dad and stepmum’s house at weekends, and they often take them swimming.
In the changing rooms, their stepmum strips, she even got in the bath with my daughter.
I’m not accusing their stepmum of anything, she loves my kids and they like her. She’s just more free-spirited than me. But I still feel weird.
Should I ask her to keep covered up around my kids?
Pick Me Up! reader Gemma Carrick says, ‘As the children’s mother, you’ve the right to bring them up in a way you feel is appropriate.
Say something like, “The kids love going swimming, but said they saw you naked. If you could take care to cover up, I’d really appreciate it.”
Make sure she knows you mean no offence and add that the kids love being with her.
Starting and ending with a positive is always best.‘
Pick Me Up! reader Steph Turner says, ‘You can’t control what goes on when the kids are with their dad, unless you fear for their safety or if they’re unhappy.
Children need to know that bodies are private, but also that they’re normal. Finding that balance is important.
I’d get it if she walked about the house naked in front of them, but I don’t see an issue when they’ve gone swimming.
The most important thing is that she loves your children and they like being with her.’