stop ex feeding our child junk?
Nadia, 35, Thatcham
My 11-year-old daughter has been struggling with body image and confidence. She’s started to put on a lot of weight and is getting pretty big.
I cook her healthy meals and encourage fruit as snacks, but when she’s with her dad – my ex – he lets her eat whatever she wants. We share custody and are on good terms, but when I mention her weight, he gets defensive. I’m concerned for her health and mental wellbeing. Should I insist that my ex stop giving her junk food?
Pick Me Up! reader Michelle Mcgrath says, ‘There’s no mincing words in this. Your daughter’s health comes first. Your ex needs to be man enough to accept there’s room for improvement. You need to explain that you’re only pointing these things out for your child’s benefit. And keep going with the healthy food at home. In time, she may prefer those choices.’
Pick Me Up! reader Andrea Jones Savin says, ‘Maybe you could start cooking with her. It could be a fun, bonding time where she learns to make healthy meals. If she enjoys it, she might take it to her dad’s. Don’t mention weight as it may make her feel worse but do explain the health benefits of each food used. If her father won’t help her, then you having fun preparing meals might just be what she needs.’