Brochmor’s worried her toddler doesn’t like her baby brother
Leaving my kids tucked up on the sofa, I went to the kitchen for a cuppa. Seconds later, I heard a deafening scream. ‘Yuck!’ screeched Lily-belle, two, while Harrison, 18 months, was lying on the floor in tears.
‘It’s OK, sweetie,’ I soothed, picking him up.
‘What just happened?’
I cried to Lily-belle.
‘He tried to kiss me,’ she whined, wiping her face in disgust. ‘So I pushed him away.’ Harrison adored his big sister. But the feeling wasn’t mutual. ‘Look, Lily-belle,’ I seethed. ‘I’ve told you about this before. You can’t push your baby brother around like that. You could have really hurt him!’
‘But he’s being naughty,’ she glowered.
‘No,’ I sighed. ‘Your brother is just trying to show you how much he loves you.’
Friends warned me it would be tough having two babies within three years, but I thought it would make my kids closer.
I’d assumed that Lily-belle would fuss over her baby brother like a mother hen. How wrong I was! When Harrison was tiny, she’d shriek with disgust whenever he made a noise, and wrinkle her nose in contempt if he touched her.
Then, when Harrison started crawling at seven months, my troubles really began.
Like any other inquisitive baby, my little boy was into everything. He would reach for toys, phones, remote controls, keys…
But, whenever he went to pick something up, Lily-belle would snatch it away.
Harrison would cry and try to take the item back, so LilyBelle would hit or kick at him.
A big, hefty toddler, she was strong enough to do damage.
‘I’m tearing my hair out trying to keep the peace,’ I groaned to my mum, Susan, 56.
‘The problem is, they never have any time away from each other,’ Mum said. ‘Why don’t you arrange a nursery session for Harrison, and let me take Lily-belle one day a week?’
It was a great idea so, the next day, I booked Harrison in to daycare on Thursday mornings.
But we’ve been trying the new routine for weeks, and it hasn’t made the slightest difference.
If anything, Lily-belle is even less tolerant of Harrison after having time away from him.
‘I’m worried Lily-belle just hates her brother,’ I said to Mum.
‘I’m sure things will change as they grow,’ Mum reassured me. ‘Lily-belle is going through the terrible twos – maybe this is how she’s acting out her fury.’
While I hope Mum’s right, it doesn’t make things any easier.
Is there anything I can do to improve their relationship?
Brochmor Williams, 26, Abercwmboi, Mid Glamorgan
‘SHE’LL HIT OR KICK HIM’
I’d love Lily-belle and Harrison to be close