Woman tells of campaign of abuse by ex-partner
A Cambuslang woman has bravely spoken out after her thuggish ex-partner admitted a catalogue of domestic abuse towards her.
Claire Cameron, 35, suffered months of abuse at the hands of callous Robert Frew after they met online in February 2014. She recalled how her once “Mr Wonderful” ended up someone who “left her in bits”.
And she also revealed 32-yearold Frew, from Shettleston, taunted her with a domestic violence poster that stated: “No one else will want you,” as he awaited sentencing for tormenting her.
Frew changed the photo on his WhatsApp messenger app to the official Police Scotland campaign advert. Claire recalled she was “absolutely distraught” when she discovered what he had done.
The poster read: “Look at the state of you. No one else will want you.” It also included the caption: “Emotional control is domestic abuse too”.
Frew carried out the stunt after
pleading guilty to threatening and abusive behaviour towards Claire after an incident on Christmas Eve 2015. He escaped with a £400 fine. But he ended up back in the dock last month after Claire reported further torment at his hands.
He forced her to give harrowing evidence over four days – before prosecutors accepted his guilty plea to engaging in conduct that caused “fear and alarm”.
However, he has walked free again after a sheriff instead ordered him to carry out 250 hours of unpaid work.
Recalling how Frew changed after they met, she said: “It started off great – then it changed.”
She said he would taunt her by recording her on his phone when she was upset.
Claire said: “He would video me crying, telling me that I was sad and pathetic.
“He said he would show people – that destroyed me.”
She described the mental abuse as “hard to deal with”, and claimed that Frew made her feel as if she did not know “whether she was coming or going”.
It reached a head on Christmas Eve when Frew “went off on one”.
Claire said: “I had told his friend’s partner what had been happening.
“He then said I should not be letting others know what was going on in our relationship.
“He started to shout at me, recording me, saying that I was a cow. He told me my family did not care about me and that I had no friends.
“When I tried to grab his phone, he pulled my hair, pushed me and threw a chair.”
It landed Frew in Glasgow Sheriff Court in March 2016.
He pled guilty to behaving in a threatening or abusive manner by shouting, swearing and making offensive remarks. He also admitted pushing Claire.
But before Frew learned his fate, Claire was left sickened when she found out what he had changed his WhatsApp picture to.
She recalled: “He had pled guilty. I was out with my friends and went to send a message.
“I then noticed Robert had changed his profile picture.
“I saw that it was a domestic abuse campaign poster that said: ‘look at you – no one else will want you’.
“I was in bits – I was absolutely distraught.
“He had pled guilty to the charge and it was basically two fingers up to the whole process and another way to hurt me.”
Frew had bail conditions not to go near his ex – but Claire said he knew she would see the image.
Claire went on to tell police of other incidents that occurred between August 2014 and 2015.
But this time Frew did not initially accept any wrongdoing.
Claire instead had to relive her ordeal over four days in the witness box at Glasgow Sheriff Court.
It was only after she felt he had added to her suffering that Frew admitted to a charge of engaging in conduct that caused “fear and alarm” to Claire.
This included shouting, swearing as well as posting an abusive message on Facebook.
He further pled guilty to pushing his ex and jamming her hand in a door.
Traumatised Claire said: “It was heartbreaking giving evidence – it was reliving all emotions.
“He did not need to make me do that – he only decided to plead guilty after my evidence.”
Frew was spared jail and instead ordered to carry out 250 hours of unpaid work.
He was also given a twoyear non-harassment order banning him from going near Claire or posting anything about her online.
Claire added: “I am glad I reported it. I hope he does change. I would never want anybody to go through and feel the way I did.”
Poster Sick Frew taunted Claire Cameron with this domestic abuse message