Woman tells of cam­paign of abuse by ex-part­ner

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A Cam­bus­lang woman has bravely spo­ken out after her thug­gish ex-part­ner ad­mit­ted a cat­a­logue of do­mes­tic abuse to­wards her.

Claire Cameron, 35, suf­fered months of abuse at the hands of cal­lous Robert Frew after they met on­line in Fe­bru­ary 2014. She re­called how her once “Mr Won­der­ful” ended up some­one who “left her in bits”.

And she also re­vealed 32-yearold Frew, from Shet­tle­ston, taunted her with a do­mes­tic vi­o­lence poster that stated: “No one else will want you,” as he awaited sen­tenc­ing for tor­ment­ing her.

Frew changed the photo on his What­sApp mes­sen­ger app to the of­fi­cial Po­lice Scot­land cam­paign ad­vert. Claire re­called she was “ab­so­lutely dis­traught” when she dis­cov­ered what he had done.

The poster read: “Look at the state of you. No one else will want you.” It also in­cluded the cap­tion: “Emo­tional con­trol is do­mes­tic abuse too”.

Frew car­ried out the stunt after

plead­ing guilty to threat­en­ing and abu­sive be­hav­iour to­wards Claire after an in­ci­dent on Christ­mas Eve 2015. He es­caped with a £400 fine. But he ended up back in the dock last month after Claire re­ported fur­ther tor­ment at his hands.

He forced her to give har­row­ing ev­i­dence over four days – be­fore pros­e­cu­tors ac­cepted his guilty plea to en­gag­ing in conduct that caused “fear and alarm”.

How­ever, he has walked free again after a sher­iff in­stead ordered him to carry out 250 hours of un­paid work.

Re­call­ing how Frew changed after they met, she said: “It started off great – then it changed.”

She said he would taunt her by record­ing her on his phone when she was up­set.

Claire said: “He would video me cry­ing, telling me that I was sad and pa­thetic.

“He said he would show peo­ple – that de­stroyed me.”

She de­scribed the men­tal abuse as “hard to deal with”, and claimed that Frew made her feel as if she did not know “whether she was com­ing or go­ing”.

It reached a head on Christ­mas Eve when Frew “went off on one”.

Claire said: “I had told his friend’s part­ner what had been hap­pen­ing.

“He then said I should not be let­ting oth­ers know what was go­ing on in our re­la­tion­ship.

“He started to shout at me, record­ing me, say­ing that I was a cow. He told me my fam­ily did not care about me and that I had no friends.

“When I tried to grab his phone, he pulled my hair, pushed me and threw a chair.”

It landed Frew in Glas­gow Sher­iff Court in March 2016.

He pled guilty to be­hav­ing in a threat­en­ing or abu­sive man­ner by shout­ing, swear­ing and mak­ing of­fen­sive re­marks. He also ad­mit­ted push­ing Claire.

But be­fore Frew learned his fate, Claire was left sick­ened when she found out what he had changed his What­sApp pic­ture to.

She re­called: “He had pled guilty. I was out with my friends and went to send a mes­sage.

“I then no­ticed Robert had changed his pro­file pic­ture.

“I saw that it was a do­mes­tic abuse cam­paign poster that said: ‘look at you – no one else will want you’.

“I was in bits – I was ab­so­lutely dis­traught.

“He had pled guilty to the charge and it was ba­si­cally two fin­gers up to the whole process and an­other way to hurt me.”

Frew had bail con­di­tions not to go near his ex – but Claire said he knew she would see the im­age.

Claire went on to tell po­lice of other in­ci­dents that oc­curred be­tween Au­gust 2014 and 2015.

But this time Frew did not ini­tially ac­cept any wrong­do­ing.

Claire in­stead had to re­live her or­deal over four days in the witness box at Glas­gow Sher­iff Court.

It was only after she felt he had added to her suffering that Frew ad­mit­ted to a charge of en­gag­ing in conduct that caused “fear and alarm” to Claire.

This in­cluded shout­ing, swear­ing as well as post­ing an abu­sive mes­sage on Face­book.

He fur­ther pled guilty to push­ing his ex and jam­ming her hand in a door.

Trau­ma­tised Claire said: “It was heart­break­ing giv­ing ev­i­dence – it was re­liv­ing all emo­tions.

“He did not need to make me do that – he only de­cided to plead guilty after my ev­i­dence.”

Frew was spared jail and in­stead ordered to carry out 250 hours of un­paid work.

He was also given a twoyear non-ha­rass­ment or­der ban­ning him from go­ing near Claire or post­ing any­thing about her on­line.

Claire added: “I am glad I re­ported it. I hope he does change. I would never want any­body to go through and feel the way I did.”

Poster Sick Frew taunted Claire Cameron with this do­mes­tic abuse mes­sage

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