‘I had a special supper with Dad’
Sue Sharp explains how a psychic's suggestion brought her a sign from her father in spirit and helped her say goodbye
After her father’s sudden death, Sue Sharp got
to say goodbye in a rather unexpected way ‘It’s such a relief to know Dad’s doing okay’
The delicious smell of roast lamb filled the kitchen, Dad’s favourite. I laid out two table settings, one for me and one for him. Steam rose from the plates as I set them down and lit a white candle. Gazing into the flame, I silently prayed. ‘Dad, please join me for supper. Give me a sign you’re okay.’
I felt silly. But I was desperate to connect to my dad, Donald, in Spirit.
Six months before, in January 2008, he’d died suddenly of a heart attack, aged 74.
It was such a shock. He and my mum, Vera, were just a few months away from their 50th wedding anniversary. We’d been planning a big party and they were looking forward to the future.
The hardest thing was none of us got to say goodbye to him. Dad had been my rock and I missed him terribly.
What was I hearing?
Hoping to ease my grief I’d visited a local psychic, desperate to find out if Dad was doing okay on the other side. The reading she gave me was comforting – and also intriguing.
‘Your dad wants you to know that he’s doing well and he’s always with you,’ she said. ‘If you want to connect with him, throw him a ‘dumb supper’. Cook him his favourite meal, play some of his favourite music, light a white candle and invite him to join you.’
Was she serious? I’d never heard of anything like that before. It sounded such a strange thing to do. But the psychic told me it was an old Pagan tradition and could be really powerful.
‘By honouring departed loved ones with their own special supper, you are inviting them to join you – just like you would when they were alive,’ she explained.
‘But I’m not psychic,’ I said. ‘Will it work?’ ‘I think you’ll find you're in for a nice surprise,’ she replied, with a smile.
So now, weeks later as I sat at the table, dinner prepared, waiting for a sign from Dad, I was still feeling a bit sceptical.
Then I remembered I’d forgotten to put any music on. I scrabbled around for a CD but all of Dad’s favourites were at Mum’s.
‘Never mind, I’ll have to do this another time,’ I said to myself.
Feeling deflated, I switched on the TV. As it burst into life, I couldn’t believe my ears. Time to Say Goodbye by Katherine Jenkins was playing. It was one of Dad’s all-time favourites – we’d even played it at his funeral! I knew this was his way of saying hello. The psychic had been right!
I didn’t tell Mum about the dumb supper or Dad’s sign because everything was so raw. The last thing I wanted was to upset her. But I did ring my daughter Sarah, to tell her.
‘That’s amazing Mum,’ she said. ‘It’s such an enormous relief to know grandad is okay.’
Since that night, I’ve never doubted that Dad’s still with me. Only a few weeks ago, I received another sign.
While driving to Mum’s on the motorway, Close to You by the Carpenters came on the radio. Dad often played the song when I was younger. Suddenly, I was overcome with emotion.
As I wiped away my tears, I noticed a number plate on the car in front of me with the letters DON – the name we called Dad for short. I knew it was yet another message from heaven.
This time, on arriving at Mum’s, I couldn't wait to tell her everything.
‘I'm not surprised love, I talk to your dad all the time in Spirit,’ she confessed. ‘We even bicker sometimes – just like we did in life.’ We both laughed.
It’s such a comfort to me to know that Dad is always watching over us.
Now I know that rather than saying goodbye, he’s saying hello again.
It's good to know we're being watched over
Dad had always been my rock