Brain dam­age dad puts wife up for care award

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ADAD left ‘un­able to show love’ af­ter suf­fer­ing brain dam­age in an un­pro­voked at­tack has nom­i­nated his wife for a ‘Carer of the Year’ award.

Paul Cas­sidy, 33, of Chea­dle, had gone for an af­ter work drink when he was vi­ciously set upon in the street, suf­fer­ing a frac­tured skull and a bleed to the brain.

The at­tack, in June 2015, left Paul fight­ing for his life. He spent two months in hos­pi­tal and when he re­turned home he was a dras­ti­cally changed man.

He was no longer able to show his wife Natasha Cas­sidy, 27, or their two chil­dren love and un­der­stand­ing or do sim­ple tasks for him­self.

Natasha, of Bir­tles Close, has looked af­ter him ever since and af­ter two years of un­flinch­ing sup­port he has nom­i­nated her for brain char­ity Head­way’s ‘Carer of the Year’ award. She said: “It was such a sud­den role re­ver­sal, he was my rock, I went to him for ev­ery­thing.

“I thought when he came home ev­ery­thing would go back to nor­mal. But he didn’t un­der­stand ba­sic con­cepts, like tea is hot and you can’t drink it straight away.

“He would leave the house in his py­ja­mas. If I gave him clothes to put on he would put them over the top of his py­ja­mas. Now he’s a com­pletely dif­fer­ent per­son. He’s emo­tion­ally flat, he used to be so lov­ing, he would find any ex­cuse to show me af­fec­tion.

“The only emo­tion he shows now is anger. That’s why I was so sur­prised that he had nom­i­nated me. I was so touched, I cried.

“It sounds hor­ri­ble, but I’ve had to learn to love him again.

“How do I ex­plain to my four-year-old why one minute dad wants to play and have a hug and the next minute he wants him to go away?”

The at­tack hap­pened on Dry­den Av­enue, Chea­dle, on June 19. Paul does not re­mem­ber it but a man has since been jailed.

Be­fore the in­ci­dent Natasha was a stay-at-home mum with the cou­ple’s two chil­dren Laycee, eight, and Tyler, four.

Now on top of car­ing for Paul she has to play the role of both par­ents to their chil­dren, the elder of which is be­ing in­ves­ti­gated for ADHD.

She is also com­plet­ing a level three cer­tifi­cate in coun­selling at Stock­port Col­lege.

In ad­di­tion Natasha vol­un­teers at the Head­start shop in Chea­dle as a thank you for the help the char­ity has given her.

She is one of three peo­ple short­listed for the Carer of the Year award, the win­ner of which will be an­nounced at the Dorch­ester Ho­tel, London, on De­cem­ber 8.

Paul, who made the nom­i­na­tion with help from Natasha’s sis­ter, said: “I know I wouldn’t have made such a fan­tas­tic re­cov­ery if it wasn’t for Natasha.”

●●Natasha Cas­sidy has been nom­i­nated for the Carer Of The Year by hus­band, Paul. Also pic­tured are son Tyler and daugh­ter Laycee

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