Brain damage dad puts wife up for care award
ADAD left ‘unable to show love’ after suffering brain damage in an unprovoked attack has nominated his wife for a ‘Carer of the Year’ award.
Paul Cassidy, 33, of Cheadle, had gone for an after work drink when he was viciously set upon in the street, suffering a fractured skull and a bleed to the brain.
The attack, in June 2015, left Paul fighting for his life. He spent two months in hospital and when he returned home he was a drastically changed man.
He was no longer able to show his wife Natasha Cassidy, 27, or their two children love and understanding or do simple tasks for himself.
Natasha, of Birtles Close, has looked after him ever since and after two years of unflinching support he has nominated her for brain charity Headway’s ‘Carer of the Year’ award. She said: “It was such a sudden role reversal, he was my rock, I went to him for everything.
“I thought when he came home everything would go back to normal. But he didn’t understand basic concepts, like tea is hot and you can’t drink it straight away.
“He would leave the house in his pyjamas. If I gave him clothes to put on he would put them over the top of his pyjamas. Now he’s a completely different person. He’s emotionally flat, he used to be so loving, he would find any excuse to show me affection.
“The only emotion he shows now is anger. That’s why I was so surprised that he had nominated me. I was so touched, I cried.
“It sounds horrible, but I’ve had to learn to love him again.
“How do I explain to my four-year-old why one minute dad wants to play and have a hug and the next minute he wants him to go away?”
The attack happened on Dryden Avenue, Cheadle, on June 19. Paul does not remember it but a man has since been jailed.
Before the incident Natasha was a stay-at-home mum with the couple’s two children Laycee, eight, and Tyler, four.
Now on top of caring for Paul she has to play the role of both parents to their children, the elder of which is being investigated for ADHD.
She is also completing a level three certificate in counselling at Stockport College.
In addition Natasha volunteers at the Headstart shop in Cheadle as a thank you for the help the charity has given her.
She is one of three people shortlisted for the Carer of the Year award, the winner of which will be announced at the Dorchester Hotel, London, on December 8.
Paul, who made the nomination with help from Natasha’s sister, said: “I know I wouldn’t have made such a fantastic recovery if it wasn’t for Natasha.”
●●Natasha Cassidy has been nominated for the Carer Of The Year by husband, Paul. Also pictured are son Tyler and daughter Laycee