Wife’s diet warnings will harm our kids
Mums who constantly tut tut about “bad” foods or bleat “a second on the lips, a year on the hips” if their child eats a chocolate button do indeed create a narrative where food obsession is normal. Even if you’re not telling your own children to eat less, your dieting habits rub off on them.
Mentioning your own struggles with weight constantly is bound to influence them.
If they learn any form of destructive behaviour it can become a problem for them. However, if they are overweight too then you also have a serious parental duty to help them get healthy. A friend of mine whose daughter was being bullied at school because of her weight addressed the matter by taking up sport as a family.
No one was singled out but after a few months of tennis and gym evenings the whole family was slim and healthy and they never looked back.
By the way, I think you have a good point about not filling the fridge with so-called low-calorie and low-fat alternatives.
But more important is that you talk things through with your wife and – instead of the constant talk of food and diets – begin to address a healthier lifestyle as a whole family.
Go to www.nhs.uk/change4life and take up some of their ideas.
Instead of her constant food comments, try to adopt a healthier lifestyle as a whole family
Many of us have a “one that got away” we never get over. But until he swanned back in you were happy. Think hard. Would you take the twins? Would you wrench them from their dad? Next, it won’t be carefree like it was when you were 17. And you have no idea what he’s like to live with. Everyone has a right to be happy but you could hurt so many – even yourself – for ever. Don’t do it.