‘I don’t want to know how long I’ve got left’

Sunday Sun - - News - By Sonia Sharma Reporter sonia.sharma@trin­i­tymir­ror.com

SHE’S a ter­mi­nally ill mum-of-three who cher­ishes her chil­dren and young grand­daugh­ter.

But Julie Gould­ing has vowed not to let can­cer beat her as she makes last­ing mem­o­ries with her fam­ily.

Julie, of Whit­ley Bay, North Ty­ne­side, was di­ag­nosed with breast can­cer in 2015.

She had a dou­ble mas­tec­tomy but the dis­ease grad­u­ally spread to other parts of her body, and she was later told the can­cer was ter­mi­nal.

How­ever the 50-year-old says she is de­ter­mined to stay strong and carry on as nor­mal, cre­at­ing more mo­ments to trea­sure with her chil­dren and 14-month-old grand­daugh­ter.

Julie, who doesn’t know how long she has left to live, said: “I told them I don’t want to know. Ev­ery per­son is dif­fer­ent and ev­ery­one is af­fected dif­fer­ently. Lots of people live with can­cer for many years.

“I’m happy to share my body with can­cer as long as it stays where it is and doesn’t get worse. I need to try and make my body and the can­cer live to­gether.”

Julie’s di­ag­no­sis fol­lowed 10 years of screen­ing. She had been hav­ing yearly mam­mo­grams as her mum and grandmother had breast can­cer.

“Af­ter I had my 10th mam­mo­gram, I got a phone call say­ing some­thing had showed up,” said Julie, who has been run­ning The Groom­ing Room in Whit­ley Bay’s Il­fra­combe Gar­dens for 10 years.

“I knew straight away what it was.”

Fur­ther tests con­firmed the dis­ease was present and there were three tu­mours around one breast. Julie opted to have a dou­ble mas­tec­tomy.

But in July this year, she started hav­ing sear­ing pains in her side and was taken to hos­pi­tal. She was given the news that the can­cer had spread to other parts of her body in­clud­ing her pelvis and spine.

Julie has been hav­ing chemo­ther­apy treat­ment but, along­side it, has started al­ter­na­tive ther­a­pies.

She has been in touch with a natur­o­pathic doc­tor who has ad­vised her on the type of foods she should eat. She is also tak­ing sup­ple­ments made with nat­u­ral in­gre­di­ents to help with the ef­fects of chemo­ther­apy and to keep her im­mune sys­tem high.

In ad­di­tion, she has acupunc­ture once a week.

“Noth­ing can be done to cure this but these al­ter­na­tive ther­a­pies can help with the symp­toms and keep my im­mune sys­tem up while I’m go­ing through chemo­ther­apy,” said Julie.

“I have been try­ing them since Septem­ber and I have seen a dif­fer­ence in Julie Gould­ing with her fam­ily my­self. I have cut out al­co­hol, sugar and dairy from my diet. I eat ev­ery­thing as nat­u­ral as pos­si­ble.

“At first, af­ter chemo­ther­apy, I would just lie in bed and feel aw­ful. But I have been feel­ing much bet­ter af­ter the al­ter­na­tive treat­ments. I’m feel­ing more pos­i­tive.”

When asked what keeps her go­ing, she said it was her chil­dren – Lola, 13, Harry, 16, Rhea, 26, and grand­daugh­ter Vega.

She added: “Ev­ery­thing I do is for them. If I’m up and well, they take the lead from that.

“I’m de­ter­mined to fight back, I’m not go­ing to let this can­cer beat me.”

A num­ber of people have been help­ing to sup­port Julie and are fundrais­ing to help her con­tinue with her treat­ments.

A walk has been or­gan­ised to­day from Whit­ley Bay to Tynemouth. Walk­ers will meet at the Ren­dezvous Café, Duke’s Walk, at 11.30am and will stop at a num­ber of bars and pubs along their way to Ora, on Front Street in Tynemouth, fundrais­ing as they go along.

Julie is plan­ning to be there her­self. She has been lent a mo­bil­ity scooter and will stay for as long as her health al­lows her.

He­len Davis, 50, from Seaton Sluice, who or­gan­ised the walk, said: “I have been fol­low­ing Julie on Face­book and she has been doc­u­ment­ing her ill­ness and how she is cop­ing. I just think she is very brave and we just wanted to do some­thing to help her.

“There has been amaz­ing sup­port for the walk. A num­ber of pubs and bars are putting on free re­fresh­ments and food on the day, and there will be a band lead­ing the group.”

Julie said she felt over­whelmed by all the sup­port and gen­eros­ity from people in the com­mu­nity.

“There is more good in this world than there’s bad,” she added.

Her fundrais­ing page is at just­giv­ing.com/crowd­fund­ing/julie-gould­ing

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