The Courier & Advertiser (Dundee Edition) - - NEWS - CRAIG SMITH

They say time can be a healer – and it can be in some cases – but any­one who has gone through the death of a baby will know the grief and sad­ness will never truly leave you.

Peo­ple al­ways ask me how many kids I have and the first in­stinct is al­ways to say “two”, as we now have our five-year-old Melody and two-yearold Heather.

Thank­fully I’m strong enough now to al­ways say “three”, as our el­dest Libby came into the world on May 30, 2012.

We had gone pretty much the full term and took joy in ev­ery move­ment and kick, had the nurs­ery painted and were ready to em­brace par­ent­hood with open arms.

Then, just days be­fore the due date, she was gone – and we knew she had gone deep down. We went to hospi­tal the next morn­ing cling­ing to some false hope, and be­cause we were so far on my in­cred­i­bly brave wife had to go through the lit­eral and emo­tional pain of giv­ing birth to our daugh­ter.

She was beau­ti­ful in ev­ery way and we got to spend sev­eral hours with her that we’ll al­ways cher­ish. And then we went home, com­pletely numb, dazed, over­whelmed, dis­ori­en­tated and ex­hausted by it all.

Fast for­ward six years and it’s fair to say we wouldn’t have got through it with­out the sup­port of the Fife Sands com­mu­nity – and it’s also fair to say baby loss is far more com­mon that one might think. Ev­ery story is dif­fer­ent and equally as dev­as­tat­ing but shar­ing these sto­ries with oth­ers who have been through sim­i­lar ex­pe­ri­ences has cer­tainly helped.

What­ever your cir­cum­stances, please do light a can­dle for the Wave of Light at 7pm on Mon­day night for all our ba­bies briefly known, for­ever loved.

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