It is important to agree what provisions will be made for your children with your ex alone, with the help of a solicitor, or with the help of a mediator before you begin the divorce process.
The family home is usually the main asset, and the first consideration will be to ensure your children have a suitable home.
If you have children, when and how you tell them about the decision to divorce is crucial. Parents should tell children together. Answer their questions as honestly as possible and reassure them that you are committed to them even though you will be living in different houses.
Reassure children that you still love them, that the separation is not their fault and that you will be making new living arrangements so that their parents can still see them on a regular basis.
Divorce and separation involves intense feelings of loss. Losing your home, economic stability and regular contact with children as well as your dream of living happily ever after. Talking to a trusted friend, family member or a counsellor can help with the powerful emotions you’re experiencing to give you the strength to tackle the practical issues such as negotiating the sale of the family home; moving house and separating your belongings.
Tips from Denise Knowles of Relate: www.relate.org.uk Help your Children Cope with your Divorce, by Paula Hall is available online and in all good bookshops.