FIVEEASY WAYS TOSTAYCOOL
Do a “reality check” on your life: write a “frustration” list, and “plus-points” list. Put the two lists together for a “cost-benefit” analysis of things that annoy you.
Recognise your triggers: what consistently pushes you over the edge? What can you do to catch it early?
Learn assertiveness techniques: broach tricky subjects with people early on by using a less inflammatory: “The effect is …”, or “I feel …” (“When you take my paper-clips I don’t have any when I need them.”; “It makes me feel unimportant when you’re always late.”)
Tell people when you are close to going over the edge. Instead of smiling until you scream, say: “I’m feeling very frustrated right now.”
Be realistic: don’t try to be the perfect ace all the time: sometimes just let yourself be a five.