Is the era of family babysitters over for good?

Commitment issues

Be realistic – if you have loads of free time then taking on regular childcare is one thing. If you are juggling looking after elderly parents, volunteering, have other grandchildren, etc, make sure taking on something else won’t mean spreading yourself too thinly.

All’s fair

If you have other children, then often there is an expectation that what you’ve done for one it’s only fair to do for the rest. If this means a family fallout, it’s worth having an honest conversation up front before you agree to do anything for anyone.

Set boundaries

Sort the parameters before you start. What happens if the children are ill? If you want to take a holiday? If you’re unwell yourself? Discuss the issues that are likely to arise – and agree contingencies for each.

My house, my rules

When your rules are the polar opposite to the ones imposed by the parents, it can lead to trouble. No one is going to be that fussed if grandma hands out the odd chocolate button, but if there is a fundamental difference in opinions, it’s really important to try to find a compromise before taking on regular childcare.

Money, money, money…

If you are turning down paid work to look after your grandchildren, then it’s fair to expect to be compensated. If you do get paid, just remember that this will formalise the arrangement and could ultimately mean less flexibility and leeway for you.