The secret to…
rediscovering sex after having a baby. Plus A letter to my estranged adult children
Book a babysitter. Ask k friends, family, a professional l to come and sit for a few hours s while you get out of the house use and enjoy some “couple” time. It could be a walk, cinema, nema, dinner, drink at the local ocal pub… just get out and about t for a few hours without baby to o chat and relax – the key to getting intimate again. Ban all talk of babies or other children. Reconnect nnect with the pre-baby you u and choose topics that are e of mutual interest such as holiday ideas, future plans, topical news, and how w each of you is feeling. . A mental break from being eing “mum” or “dad” helps ps you to feel more “you” – and more desirable. Talk through any fears. You may be feeling anxious about having sex after having the baby. Women can worry it may be painful, and guys are concerned they don’t want to hurt their partner. Keep the talking positive. Once stresses have been released through sharing, you’ll find the physical stuff is easier and more enjoyable. Dress up! Get ou out of your baggy tracksuit bottom bottoms and old T-shirt. Getting spruced up will make you feel so much muc better, more positive and mo most definitely more attractive and d desirable – this goes for both of you. Have a ccuddle. Physical contact in any way is a really go good start to getting back to y your sexual best. Instead of feeling as though you have hav to jump into bed straight away, remove any pres pressure or anxieties by enjoy enjoying skin-on-skin cuddling cuddling, kissing, or even
gentle foreplay, if you’re in the m mood.
Breaking Mum b And Dad: An Insid Insider’s Guide To Parental Anxiety, by Anna Williamson, is publis published by Green Tree