Under one roof The grandmother and grandson
In a new series, we celebrate all the different ways we now choose to live together – with extended family, friends and even strangers. This week, two readers explain what home means to them
Sharon McPherson, 49
My daughter is a really good mother, but she got ill and Tyrese had to become someone like a carer to his younger brothers and sister. It was too much, and he was misbehaving at home and at school. I was worried he’d get into trouble if I didn’t take him in.
He’s a bright boy and since he’s been living with me, his behaviour has improved. The routine is good for him and I set boundaries, though I believe he needs fun and love. I’m in daily contact with his mother, so she knows he’s fine.
I love Tyrese dearly, but things are difficult when you are a grandparent looking after a child: I can’t work full-time, so it can be a struggle financially, and it’s tiring. But I’ll always be there for my daughter and grandchildren. Tyrese McPherson, 11
When my mum wasn’t very well, she asked me to do a lot for my brothers and sometimes I didn’t like it. My nan doesn’t ask me to do things – she does things for me. She can go on about stuff, like keeping the house tidy, though.
I miss my mum and sister, but my brothers are annoying; I like having my own room at my nan’s.
I get pocket money when I do my chores. I like gaming and I’m very good at it. I also like Latin and maths, but I don’t know what I want to be when I leave school. Nan says the most important thing is a good education, so we can do what we want when we are adults. She helps me every evening with my homework.
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I worried he’d get into trouble if I didn’t take him in