‘MY MOTHER AND I FLED ONTO THE STREET’

The Jewish Chronicle - - NEWS -

A GIRL of 17 told the JC that she had to flee her house with her mother to es­cape her abu­sive fa­ther.

The girl, whose name we are with­hold­ing, spent months liv­ing on friends’ floors be­fore mov­ing into the JWA refuge.

She put her fa­ther’s rage down to his de­pres­sion, adding: “He would throw things around the house and tear my mum’s clothes up in front of us. We were very scared of him.”

In Oc­to­ber last year, when her two sis­ters, now aged 19 and 20, went to univer­sity, she had a mi­nor dis­agree­ment with her fa­ther which had lon­glast­ing con­se­quences.

“I handed him a set of keys and asked him to say please. He be­came ex­tremely an­gry and put his arm up to hit me. He re­ally wanted to hurt me,” she said.

She used her mar­tial-arts train­ing to es­cape his grip and ran out of the house. Her fa­ther then phoned one of her sis­ters and said that he wanted to “break my bones”.

Their fa­ther was ques­tioned by po­lice for six hours, but re­turned to the house with­out be­ing charged.

“My mum and I were ter­ri­fied so we ran in dif­fer­ent di­rec­tions so he couldn’t find us,” she said.

Her mother went to stay with her eldest daugh­ter at univer­sity, and she had to stay in Lon­don, sleep­ing on friends’ floors. She and her mother were then housed in a JWA refuge.

They sur­vived with lit­tle money and few pos­ses­sions, as most of their be­long­ings were still in the fam­ily home.

Eight months ago, her fa­ther com­mit­ted sui­cide and they moved back. But her fa­ther had ru­ined the home and most of their pos­ses­sions.

“He even peed in my mum’s suit­case. The house was a wreck.”

Al­though she ad­mit­ted to be­ing “very de­pressed” af­ter her fa­ther’s death, the girl said she has now found her con­fi­dence again.

“Some days I still get very up­set. And I do miss my dad – the dad I had be­fore he be­came ill.”

She added that she is now con­cen­trat­ing on her school­work and on rais­ing aware­ness of do­mes­tic vi­o­lence. “No one should have to go through what we went through.”

Child vic­tims of do­mes­tic abuse face longterm dam­age ( photo posed by model)

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