NOT GETTING MARRIED IN THE OMER
Rabbi Julian Sinclair on the paths to practice
THE Omer is the 49-day period of counting from Pesach to Shavuot. Since the rabbinic period, the Omer has become a semi-sad season. At least until the 33rd day, the halachah is that we do not get married (or have haircuts, or listen to live music). This is in remembrance of the students of Rabbi Akiva who died from a plague during this time because, the Talmud teaches, they did not treat one another with respect.
There were times second marriages were allowed to take place during the Omer, on the grounds that they were not as joyful as firsttime weddings. But today we do not distinguish: who is to say that a remarriage is any less of a celebration? However, according to the Mishnah Berurah, remarrying a spouse from whom you were previously divorced is allowed during the Omer.
One may get engaged during the Omer. You never know what may happen if you delay the decision and commitment to marry.