CASE STUDY: ‘WE CLIMBED OUT OF THE BATH­ROOM WIN­DOW AND RAN AWAY’

The Jewish Chronicle - - NEWS - BY ROSA DO­HERTY

PAUL asked Jane to marry him four months af­ter they met, but what started out as a whirl­wind ro­mance sud­denly changed when he be­came con­trol­ling and vi­o­lent.

Jane ex­plains: “Paul was hand­some, he treated me like I was a princess and promised me he would never hurt me like I was hurt be­fore. He promised he would make me happy — and I was.

“But then Paul hated me speak­ing to my friends or go­ing out with any­one, even my sis­ter, Nina. He redi­rected the house calls to his mo­bile and told any­one who called I was busy. I lost con­tact with every­one.

“Adam was born in Au­gust 1995 and was a beau­ti­ful baby. Paul seemed so proud of me for hav­ing a boy. I couldn’t wait to get home from the hospi­tal and be a lit­tle fam­ily.

“The day I came home Paul was af­fec­tion­ate, I felt so re­lieved. I thought it was all go­ing to be al­right.

“But it all changed when we put Adam to sleep. His first night’s sleep at home was filled with my screams and as the years went by, things got worse and worse.”

It was Adam who con­tacted Jewish Women’s Aid af­ter the char­ity vis­ited his school. He says: “I never re­ally had many friends. Dad didn’t like me go­ing to other peo­ple’s houses or other peo­ple com­ing to ours.

“I’d never thought what was go­ing on at home could be do­mes­tic vi­o­lence; it was just what was go­ing on in the house.

“I didn’t like it. I was wor­ried about Mum but I sort of thought it was what was go­ing on in most houses.

“I waited and waited un­til it fi­nally hap­pened one Fri­day night. Mum had made a nice Shab­bos din­ner but Dad said the food was aw­ful.

“He was an­gry and he slapped her hard across the face and she fell to the floor. He reached to get a knife and I screamed to Mum to get up.

“We ran into the bath­room and locked the door. He was bang­ing on the door threat­en­ing to kill her and I said, ‘we have to go now’.

“We climbed out the bath­room win­dow and ran to aun­tie Nina’s house. I called JWA and they came to get us that night.”

*Names have been changed to pro­tect the iden­ti­ties of those in­volved

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