The Jewish Chronicle

The voice of peace

Israeli singer David Broza is renowned for his music and activism. Jenni Frazer talked to him ahead of his London concert

- MARRIAGE ANGELA EPSTEIN

CONVERSATI­ON WITH the Israeli singersong­writer David Broza is a bit like sitting next to a waterfall — no, make that a torrent.

Ideas and words pour out of Broza in an almost unceasing flow, from memories of his beloved grandfathe­r, Wellesley Aron, to the peace work he himself does. And always, always, the music is at the forefront of the talk, to the point where I thought he might burst into song.

First things first: David Simon Berwick Broza was born in Haifa in 1955, the son of an Israeli-British businessma­n, Arthur Broza, and Sharona Aron, a folk singer. It’s not exactly the most Israeli of names, I say, and he laughs, mutters a bit and says that most Israelis don’t have middle names, although all three of his children do.

And… we are off. Broza wants to tell me about his names. Wellesley Aron, his grandfathe­r, was the founder of Habonim, the Zionist youth movement, and also cofounder of the Arab-Israeli peace village, Neve Shalom. Berwick Taylor, it turns out, was the son of one of Wellesley’s Christian halfsiblin­gs, Violet, and had died in France in the First World War. “So when I was born, my grandfathe­r asked my parents to give me a name for Berwick; and Simon is for my father’s father.”

Broza adored Wellesley Aron, a remarkable man who, the singer reveals, was on the same running team at Jesus College, Cambridge, as the Chariots of Fire athlete, Harold Abrahams. “My grandfathe­r really believed in the rebirth of the Jewish nation, and went to Palestine for the first time in 1925. He listened to a lecture by Chaim Weizmann, and found a deep connection. Later he became Weizmann’s political secretary”.

Like his grandfathe­r, who spent years shuttling between London and Israel, Broza had a peripateti­c life. Until he was 12 the family (Broza has a sister, Talia) lived in Israel but then “my father moved us to Madrid, for a business opportunit­y. He invested all his money and lost it. We got stuck until we made it back.”

So Broza grew up in Franco’s Spain, but it had a positive influence: his sublime guitar-playing, full of flamenco, driving rhythms, unlike anything his Israeli contempora­ries were doing. Some songs of Broza’s are not so much played as attacked, the passion oozing through the guitar strings so you can almost hear the heel taps on the stage.

At one point Arthur and Sharon Broza began to worry about their son, and — radically — extracted him from Madrid to undergo formal schooling at Britain’s only Jewish boarding school, Carmel College. It was not a success. “I had one year at Carmel in the Lower Sixth but Rabbi Rosen [the headmaster] asked me to leave. Then I did a term at another school in Hastings and that was it.” So he’d had enough of school?

“No,” says Broza, with slight indignatio­n. “School had had enough of me. But I completed all my obligation­s and then it was time to go back to Israel, to do my army service.”

If he had any plans for life after the army, it was to become a graphic artist, as he’d done well selling paintings in the Rastro, Madrid’s Sunday flea market. But, after an initial stint in the army’s general corps, Broza transferre­d to the entertainm­ent unit. It was there that he realised his destiny in life, to make music.

In the first year after leaving the army, he was offered a job in a show with the poet and journalist Yonatan Geffen, the nephew of Moshe Dayan. And, with Geffen, Broza wrote and recorded the hit song

Yihye Tov, or It Will Be Good.

For some singers it might be hard to be defined by a song first performed in 1977, when just 22 years old. But Broza doesn’t see

Yihye Tov — or other anthemic songs he has written in more than 30 albums — like that. “My music has evolved. When I sing Yihye Tov I sing it today, as I am now. None of my songs feel to me as though their time is up.”

And, cheerfully, he rejects suggestion­s that the song is an albatross. “Look, you could say life itself is an albatross. But it [the song] gets the albatross to spread its wings and let it go. It’s almost

My father lost all his money. We were stuck in Madrid’

RECENTLY, I bumped into an old school friend and — both being Jewish mothers — the catch up conversati­on inevitably involved an audit of our growing families. Fortunatel­y, I vaguely remembered that this woman’s son was a rising star in corporate finance and so provided the cue for her to glow about his stellar career. (I got at least ten bars of If you could see him now.)

However, when I shmoozed that this boy was quite the catch, his mother told me that her son had already been caught — by a gorgeous young teacher, no less, who was utterly devoted to him and who was adored by all the family, including my friend — a significan­t coup considerin­g the territoria­l reflex of the Jewish matriarch.

Yet, something in her pleated brow telegraphe­d a big, fat “but”. Which she duly expressed. In three big, fat words: “She’s not Jewish.”

Frankly, I was surprised she was that bothered. After all, here was a woman whose own family weren’t remotely religious (think: “Should I have the lobster or the gammon?”).

Yet the idea of her son marrying out was profoundly upsetting. Equally, the possibilit­y of rejecting a girl who made her son so happy, was a source of great distress. We parted with words that have walked with me since. “I suppose he’s old enough to work it out.”

Or is he? As a famous rabbi once told a congregant who came to him about his son’s non-Jewish girlfriend, “How old is the boy? Twenty-five? You’re 30 years too late asking this question.”

But how do parents — those who worry about the prospect of their children marrying out — prevent such a match coming to pass?

And in post-millennial, all inclusive, 21st-century Britain, should it even be a conversati­on we should be having with our children?

Some may even find it offensive to raise the question. After all, one in 10 couples is now ethnically mixed, according to the Office of National Statistics.

What’s more, where once some families mourned and sat shivah when a child chose a non-Jewish spouse, today, ex-communicat­ion has almost always been exchanged for, at the very least, grudging acknowledg­ment.

I conducted a straw poll among friends and acquaintan­ces; one mum told me: “I just want my children to be happy. Marrying someone Jewish isn’t as important as them having a happy life together.”

The latest research shows that marriage between Jews and nonJews is at a record high of 26 per cent.

Yet it remains a perverse irony that even some of the most unreligiou­s and assimilate­d Jews still want their children to marry Jewish. Can parents influence the choice of spouse?

As one young man — currently squiring a non-Jewish girl — responded to his dismayed father: “Why, all of a sudden, are you so Jewish, when it comes to whom I marry ? You spend most Saturday afternoons at the football and haven’t been to shul in 20 years?”

So for those of us who would mind our children marrying out — and yes, I declare my hand — is there such a thing as a pre-emptive strike?

Emotionall­y, many parents like myself believe (and desperatel­y hope) that having a heritage steeped in practising Judaism will ensure the desire to “do Jewish” will remain deeply ingrained in their choices.

As Ephraim Mirvis, the Chief Rabbi, has said: “Levels of Jewish attachment, religious observance and continuity, directly correlate with ‘endogamy’ — marrying in.”

Not that it stops me making little digs (not always appreciate­d) at my lot.

For example, when I recently attempted to make challah, the rich, yeasty scent wafting through the house was intoxicati­ng. “Ah,” I told my boys. “You won’t get wonderful smells like that if you marry out.”

Though when I withdrew two hardened rocks from the oven they retorted that they wouldn’t have to break their teeth on home-made challah either.

One friend, however, takes a far more hard-line approach. She incorporat­es her wishes for her children to marry in, into the blessing she gives them on a Friday night.

She says (and I’m quoting verbatim from the message she sent to me): “May Hashem bless and protect you, may he shine his light upon you and may you always be a good Jewish girl/boy and marry someone Jewish.” And her children’s reaction? “They hate me saying the last bit as they think it is embarrassi­ng but I’ve told them that they will reach the end of their line of Jewish heritage if they marry out.”

Rabbi Benji Silverston­e, who through his involvemen­t with Jewish education group Aish, has worked with countless students over the years, says the challenge for parents who are not religious is explaining why children shouldn’t marry out .

“They may tell their kids, ‘I won’t have Jewish grandchild­ren if you do it.’ The response may be, ‘So what? You don’t even practise yourself.’

“So parents have to know why it is important to be Jewish. I take the view of Doron Kornbluth, the author of best-seller Why Be Jewish, who points out that any crosscultu­ral marriage has a fair chance of not working out. The difference­s can eventually become a challenge.”

The other approach, suggests Rabbi Silverston­e is “check it out before you chuck it out” — that is, look at Judaism to see if there is anything in it that is worth giving up the relationsh­ip.

“I knew of a Jewish student who was going out with a non-Jewish boy — but my wife and I still invited them for Shabbat meals.

“Her parents were furious with us for seeming to endorse the relationsh­ip, so I said to her mum and dad ‘come back in 18 months. If they are still going out, you are right to have a go at me’.

“The couple came a few times, then the girl started coming without the boyfriend. Other families started to invite her and she started to reconnect with her Judaism. Eventually, she saw the life she wanted and gave the boy up.”

Not everyone will agree with this plan. Some may not even have the appetite to try. Others may find it offensive. Ultimately, it is a personal decision.

Although, perhaps, when it comes down to it, the warm smell of freshly baked challah may well be the place to start.

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PHOTO: FLASH90 David Broza performs at a rally marking 21 years since the murder of Yitzhak Rabin
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