‘IT FEELS LIKE REAL ACCEPTANCE’
STEVE Laughton had always looked admiringly at the ketubot of his married friends and family and imagined what his own would be like.
But he also appreciated that “so much of the Hebrew language is about man and wife” — and he is in a same sex relationship.
Now the 36-year-old playwright feels “pure joy” at the prospect of being one of the first to receive a ketubot written specially for same sex couples.
“I’d read this beautiful document between a man and wife and look at it in the context of me and [partner] Paul [Bloomfield] and think: ‘How on earth are we going to do this?’
“Things were getting serious and we were experiencing a lot of life cycle things and I remember looking at the ketubot and being sad.
“The fact the Liberal movement has developed this without any prompting or campaigning from LGBT+ groups makes the fact it exists even sweeter.
“It feels like real acceptance and that is beautiful and really significant.
“They haven’t come up with this because they have to. They have sat down and thought about it as something they need to do to be inclusive. It shows they are willing to take that extra step and make a stand.”
Mr Bloomfield, 33, is equally excited about displaying a document that holds “so much significance” in the couple’s Essex home.
“It takes us away from this halfway life LGBT+ people have to live,” he said.
“It is one of the most precious things about a Jewish marriage and to have one that speaks to our own circumstance is something really amazing.
“I don’t take moves like this for granted.”
The couple, members of the Liberal Jewish Synagogue, St John’s Wood, plan to marry next summer.
Steve Laughton and Paul Bloomfield