HE CONTROLS MY EVERY MOVE
I recently got engaged to the most wonderful man who I thought was my Mr Right. He introduced me to his family, telling them that he was going to marry me – it was great. But since then he has become more controlling. There are certain things he doesn’t like about me and he wants to change. If I complain he gets angry. I can’t visit my family and friends, who live nearby. He always wants me to stay indoors and if I go out and he spots me he says, ‘I told you to stay indoors. Go home.’ His controlling ways are making me fall out of love with him. The warning signs are loud and clear. Controlling men are often very charming at the beginning of a relationship but once they feel that you have fallen in love, their need to dominate soon emerges. The classic sign is that he is trying to cut you off from family and friends, and controlling where you go and what you do. He is unlikely to change as he probably denies having a problem and blames you for his behaviour. You need to end the relationship. This is not love and he could become even more controlling. Tell yourself that you are lucky you have seen the signs before you got married or had children.