SHE HAS CUT ME OUT OF HER LIFE
One of my daughters has deleted me from her life. This has been the case for many years and I am devastated. I have worked hard to be there for my four children and grandchildren, but my daughter has decided I am not necessary in her life. My husband was serially unfaithful and we had a very difficult divorce when my daughter was 16, her sister 17 and our two sons were little. There was no financial support from my husband so I struggled, working part time. In the end my ex-husband and I managed to be friends. I still loved him but sadly he died at 61. My estranged daughter was close to him. People say she is an adult now and I should let it go. She has asked me not to contact her any more. Should I leave it or keep trying? I know how devastated you must feel about your daughter – I am so sorry. As a single mother with four children and little money, life must have been very hard. As your sons were still young, a lot of your time would have been spent looking after them and perhaps your daughter resented this because she did not understand how difficult it all was. Although it is completely understandable that you couldn’t continue in your marriage, perhaps, as she was close to her father, she blamed you for the divorce as well, which is really hard. She could also be grieving for his death and this is fuelling her anger. But keep the door open. Write one more letter telling her you love her and that you will always be there for her, and continue to send birthday and Christmas cards. Then see lots of your other children and grandchildren and your friends. It is important that you have a life and I hope that one day she may be part of it again.