ONCE A CHEATER, AL­WAYS A CHEATER

The Mail on Sunday - You - - Relationships -

Rather like an­other com­mon re­la­tion­ship say­ing – a leop­ard never changes his spots – the mes­sage is that our fun­da­men­tal na­ture is fixed. If your spouse cheats, then the man you thought was ‘good’ is ‘bad’ and there’s no hope what­so­ever. ANY TRUTH? Of course there are se­rial cheats, but this cliché lumps the one-time of­fender in with them and is likely to make you panic and do some­thing that you’ll later re­gret (such as throw­ing him out or telling your teenage daugh­ter all the gory de­tails). So let’s look at this an­other way: if I said you could never learn from your mis­takes and change, you’d prob­a­bly get an­gry. Could you ex­tend that gen­eros­ity to your part­ner, too? If he is gen­uinely sorry and pre­pared to ac­knowl­edge the pain he has caused, there’s no rea­son why you can’t emerge on the other side with a stronger mar­riage. TRUTH RAT­ING 0%

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