SEVEN WAYS TO NURTURE THE IN-LAW BOND
1 DO approach childcare with caution. Every last detail needs to be discussed before problems arise – and there needs to be flexibility. A granny is not the same as a nanny paid to carry out orders. 2 DON’T use social media to vent your frustration or to get others on side. And don’t unfriend one another. 3 DO get to know one another individually, without other family members around. Have lunch, show an interest in each other’s lives and respect their talents and areas of expertise. 4 DON’T focus on finding faults or take everything personally. Your mother- or daughter-in-law is likely to have plenty going on that you know little about, so avoid jumping to conclusions to explain their behaviour. 5 DO act in the way you would like your in-law to. A big confrontation isn’t necessary. If one person changes their behaviour, the other will likely change theirs. 6 DON’T enlist the support of your husband or son to relay messages or negotiate between you. It spreads the destruction. 7 DO build on what you have in common. You love the same people and want the best for them. Use this as a basis to see the best in each other.