Paying respects with flowers

Taking or sending flowers to a funeral is a far from new tradition; there is archaeological evidence to suggest that wild flowers were placed on graves over 60,000 years ago.

Flowers at a funeral or memorial are a way of expressing feelings when words are not enough.

Bereaved friends and family understand and appreciate what is meant, especially when it is clear that a little extra thought has gone into choosing an arrangement appropriate to the dead person’s character or lifestyle.

White flowers are said to symbolise purity and innocence, and white lilies are regarded as traditional funeral flowers, but most varieties and colours are now seen as acceptable.

Flowers can be arranged in many styles. Crosses or wreaths are traditional, but there are other options too. For instance, a military badge design might be created for someone connected with the armed forces or a football shirt in team colours for a keen fan.

Flowers are sometimes subject to the custom and habits of the deceased person and bereaved family, especially if the funeral has a religious element.

Believers in all forms of Christianity are usually happy to accept funeral flowers, though some nonconformist denominations might prefer the arrangement to be simple.

Flowers do not form part of the Jewish Orthodox funeral tradition; more appropriate would be a gift basket or fruit sent during the mourning period.

Opinions vary among Muslim or Islamic cultures; it is best to consult someone close to the family in advance. At Buddhist and Hindu funerals, flowers are usually welcomed.

In a multi-cultural society it is important to find out beforehand what is acceptable.