Kiss on a first date? It’s OK for over-50s

The Sunday Telegraph - - News - By Pa­trick Sawer

FOR­GET ev­ery­thing you were taught by your mother: it is OK to kiss on a first date.

And don’t worry – that dar­ing piece of ad­vice comes with the stamp of ap­proval of De­brett’s, the ex­perts in man­ners and eti­quette.

“Mod­ern ro­mance of­ten in­volves a briefer ‘court­ing’ pe­riod,” it says in a new guide to on­line dat­ing.

Re­search by Our­time, the on­line dat­ing site for peo­ple over 50, found that al­most a third feel out of touch with the mod­ern rules of dat­ing.

The first bit of ad­vice in the Our­time and De­brett’s Guide to 50+ Dat­ing in­volves writ­ing a dat­ing pro­file and the tricky ques­tion of what sort of pho­to­graph to use in an on­line dat­ing pro­file.

Kate Tay­lor, an on­line dat­ing ex­pert for Our­time, rec­om­mends writ­ing as if “you’re in­tro­duc­ing your­self to some­one at a party”, and to the re­lief of shy, re­tir­ing men, the onus is no longer on them. “On­line dat­ing is an egal­i­tar­ian plane, and women can now take the ini­tia­tive too,” says the guide.

One of the most burn­ing dat­ing dilem­mas is the ques­tion of who should pay.

In keep­ing with its spirit of gen­der equal­ity the guide states that “who­ever is­sued the in­vi­ta­tion should ex­pect to pick up the bill”.

Then of course there is the age-old ques­tion of when to take things to a more in­ti­mate level.

Our­time’s re­search found that many over-50s are in the mood to get things mov­ing: al­most a third of them would sleep with some­one on the third date or be­fore, with only 14 per cent wait­ing be­tween six and 10 dates.

The guide re­as­sures us that if things go well, a kiss, and maybe more, can in­deed be on the cards among the over-50s, say­ing: “Don’t feel you’re jeop­ar­dis­ing fu­ture prospects if your in­stincts are telling you to throw cau­tion to the wind – whether it’s hug or a kiss or an overnight stay.”

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