Val­ues are like fin­ger­prints

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IHAVE said it be­fore and I will say it again ... it’s all about the ques­tions you ask and all about the answers and in­sights that these ques­tions of­fer. Some ques­tions I asked you to an­swer last week are shown be­low:

What do I have in my life that I want more of? What is some­thing that I don’t have that I would like added to my life?

What do I have or do that I would like to elim­i­nate?

What do I al­ways dream about that I have not yet taken steps to­wards do­ing?

What kind of per­son am I and what do I truly value in my life?

What could I do to be dif­fer­ent in my life?

I hope the in­sights are amaz­ing for you and I hope they of­fer you op­por­tu­ni­ties to grow as a per­son and move for­ward with your life goals.

Now on to this week’s col­umn and I hope you can re­mem­ber where we left off last week.

Last week, I shared what I feel are some huge val­ues and strengths that we could all do to improve. The specific val­ues and strengths have come from the leg­endary cen­tre for pos­i­tive psy­chol­ogy so I will list them for you again be­low:

Love of Learn­ing

Judg­ment, crit­i­cal think­ing and open-mind­ed­ness So­cial in­tel­li­gence

Per­spec­tive sand wisdom

Cre­ativ­ity and orig­i­nal­ity

Cu­rios­ity and in­ter­est in the world

Hon­esty, au­then­tic­ity and gen­uine­ness

Brav­ery and val­our

Dili­gence and per­se­ver­ance

Kind­ness and gen­eros­ity

Ca­pac­ity to love and be loved

Team­work and loy­alty

Fair­ness, equal­ity and jus­tice


Self-con­trol and self-reg­u­la­tion

Modesty and hu­mil­ity

Caution, pru­dence and dis­cre­tion

Hope, op­ti­mism and fu­ture mind­ed­ness


Hu­mour and play­ful­ness

Zest, en­ergy and vi­tal­ity

Ap­pre­ci­a­tion of ex­cel­lence

Forgiveness and mercy

Spir­i­tu­al­ity and sense of pur­pose

Over the next eight weeks we’ll through a few of the specific strengths each week as well as talk­ing about other things that I feel are rel­e­vant. So, this week we are briefly go­ing to dis­cuss


We will de­fine each one and then of­fer you some prac­ti­cal tips on how to improve them as much as pos­si­ble so……


“Love of learn­ing in­volves ex­pe­ri­enc­ing pos­i­tive feel­ings in the process of ac­quir­ing skills, sat­is­fy­ing cu­rios­ity, build­ing on ex­ist­ing knowl­edge, and/or learn­ing some­thing com­pletely new. This strength has im­por­tant mo­ti­va­tional con­se­quences in that it helps peo­ple to per­sist in the face of set­backs, challenges and neg­a­tive feed­back.”

“Love of learn­ing as a strength is typ­i­cally in­trin­si­cally mo­ti­vated in na­ture; as it pro­vides a challenge, sat­is­fies cu­rios­ity, and cre­ates in­ter­est and en­joy­ment. In con­trast, ex­trin­sic mo­ti­va­tion in­volves learn­ing as a means to an end; get good grades, win a pro­mo­tion, or please some­one else. In­di­vid­u­als with this sig­na­ture strength also place a higher value on the con­tent on what they learn.”

What could you do daily to start re­ally work­ing on this?

Find a per­son who shares your area of your in­ter­est and learn how he/she in­creases his/her ex­per­tise in that area.

Iden­tify fac­tors which might have di­min­ished your cu­rios­ity in an area and search three new ways to re­ju­ve­nate it.

Ex­pand your knowl­edge in an area of in­ter­est through books, jour­nals, mag­a­zines, TV, ra­dio or the in­ter­net. Ded­i­cate time to them each day.


“Think­ing things through and ex­am­in­ing them from all sides are im­por­tant as­pects of who you are. You do not jump to con­clu­sions, and you rely only on solid ev­i­dence to make your de­ci­sions. You are able to change your mind. Open mind­ed­ness in­creases with age and ed­u­ca­tion. Truth emerges from a process of crit­i­cal in­quiry in which both sides must be con­sid­ered.”

What could you do daily to start re­ally work­ing on this?

Iden­tify rea­sons of your last three ac­tions that you are not happy with (not fol­low­ing through with a goal) and brain­storm bet­ter al­ter­na­tive ideas for the fu­ture.

Start an ac­tiv­ity and ask your­self -- Why? When? And how?

Iden­tify causes of a per­ceived fail­ure of an ac­tiv­ity in the past. Are there any pat­terns? Take some time to think deeply about how you can improve.

When you face the next challenge, first imag­ine the best and worst sce­nar­ios and then de­cide the most re­al­is­tic course of ac­tion.


“You are aware of the mo­tives and feel­ings of other peo­ple. You know what to do to fit in to dif­fer­ent so­cial sit­u­a­tions and you know what to do to put oth­ers at ease.”

What could you do daily to start re­ally work­ing on this?

If some­one of­fends you, at­tempt to find at least one pos­i­tive el­e­ment in their mo­tives.

Write five per­sonal feel­ings daily for four weeks and mon­i­tor pat­terns.

Ask some­one close to you about times you did not emo­tion­ally un­der­stand him/her and how he/ she would like to be emo­tion­ally un­der­stood in the fu­ture.

No­tice when your fam­ily and friends grow. Con­grat­u­late them and record specific ob­ser­va­tions.

Per­ceive and ac­knowl­edge three sin­cere ges­tures of a friend.

Now for ac­tion:

How about that for some AC­TION op­tions this week?

Would you like to work on your LOVE OF LEARN­ING this week?

How would be­ing a bet­ter CRIT­I­CAL THINKER work for you?

Could hav­ing in­creased SO­CIAL IN­TEL­LI­GENCE be awe­some for you in the NOW and the FU­TURE?

Val­ues are who you are even when no one is watch­ing.

Suc­cess in life means liv­ing by your val­ues. And to finish this week’s col­umn quot­ing the great Elvis Pres­ley:

“Val­ues are like fin­ger prints. No­body’s are the same but you leave them all over ev­ery­thing you do.”

Have a great week and let’s keep work­ing on be­ing the best ver­sion of you.

Let’s keep OP­TI­MIS­ING your MIND, your BODY and your LIFE.

Per­sonal fit­ness with Chris Hunt

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