TASHA CHOSE A BABY OVER HER LIFE
T ASHA TRAFFORD had just got married when she was told the back pain she’d been experiencing was an incurable cancer.
Four years later, she had just fulfilled her dream of becoming a mum when her life was cruelly taken by the disease.
Tasha had been diagnosed with rare bone cancer Ewing’s Sarcoma just after she got married in Thailand in 2012.
She had been suffering back pain and had been regularly visiting her doctor for help.
Her cancer was detected after the family paid for an MRI scan.
The family knew quickly the condition was incurable.
She had chemotherapy and radiotherapy at Swansea’s Singleton Hospital and after two years was told she was clear and, while they couldn’t tell her it wouldn’t come back, she should carry on with her life.
In her hope of becoming a mother, Tasha had frozen three embryos.
As soon as she was told the cancer was no longer active, one was implanted.
The first egg took and Tasha was delighted when she was told she was pregnant.
However, 16 weeks into her pregnancy she was told the cancer had returned.
She was given the unimaginable choice of ending her pregnancy to start chemotherapy straight away or losing her life.
A&E nurse Tasha decided to continue with her pregnancy.
She said at the time: “Doing anything that might harm my unborn baby would be unthinkable”.
Baby Cooper arrived on December 12, 2015. His mum got to share just 11 months with him before she died on November 12, 2016.
Tasha had set herself goals to reach, and she was desperate to see her son turn one.
“She had him for 11 months,” her dad Dai Gallivan, from Clydach, Swansea, said.
“She knew what was happening but we didn’t speak about it much. It was a really long illness and was incredibly hard for Tasha.”
The day she died, her Dad had been due to fly out to complete a charity climb of Mount Kilimanjaro for Tenovus Cancer Care.
A month before, having seen his daughter’s condition deteriorate, he decided to hand his place over to Tasha’s brother David.
“I knew I couldn’t go. I knew in my heart of hearts if I was away then Tasha wouldn’t be here when I got back”.
David was sitting in the airport, two hours before his flight, when his Dad called to tell him his sister had died.
David had been able to see his sister the day before he left. He continued with the trek in her memory.
This year Dai himself will complete the trek in his daughter’s memory.
“It’s going to be a good event and my son wants me to do it because he wants me to share the same experience as him.
“I’m not worried about the climbing itself, I am pretty sure I’ll be OK with that, but I know a lot of people have problems with the altitude.”
He said his daughter wouldn’t be at all surprised he was completing the trek.
“I think she’d think it’s just what I do. She’d think it’s just another thing that Dad does”.
To sponsor Dai visit www. justgiving.com/fundraising/daigallivan.
Left, Tasha and baby Cooper. Above, Dai Gallivan with his daughter Tasha and, below, Dai on Pen y Fan