Mind the gender gap! So, who has it easier
EDUCATIONAL psychologist Dr Kairen Cullen explains: “Our brains thrive on variety and stimulation and sitting for hours in front of written text can certainly dull the appetite for learning, so the addition of traditional and computer-based games, THERE is a debate most parents have had at one time or another. Which is harder to raise – girls or boys?
In our household, this subject usually comes up when we’re watching our three boys wrestle around the garden until they’re either crying or concussed... while my friends’ girls play nicely with a set of crayons.
Okay, I’m exaggerating. And I hate to reinforce stereotypes – genuinely – but it is without question true that there are times when my kids are so loud, boisterous and excessively physical that I’m nearly tearing my hair out.
It could be of course that I simply breed loud, boisterous children, regardless of their gender. But I know enough mothers of boys who’ve experienced similar hair-tearing episodes to suspect this is not a coincidence.
Last week, a study by psychologists claimed to finally answer the question of which sex is the most challenging to raise. The answer, apparently, depends on which issues you as a parent find most stressful to handle.
While every child is an individual, psychologists have observed certain types of behaviour which are dominant in each gender.
So if you’re big on discipline, you might find boys more of a challenge because they tend to be ‘less verbal and more impulsive’.
If you worry about physical safety, the fact that boys are rambunctious and aggressive, will probably send your blood pressure soaring.
However, it is by no means plain sailing with girls, in who managing self-esteem can be more of an issue.
Psychologist Carol Gilligan refers to the ‘tyranny of nice and kind’ – how we as parents unwittingly raise girls to be