‘Women are judged more than men’

Woman (UK) - - Women Like You -

Heather John­son*, 47, lives in London.

I’ve al­ways been quite a sex­ual per­son. That’s why, when I found out the av­er­age num­ber of part­ners is only eight, I was stunned. I’m 47 and can’t imag­ine hav­ing only slept with so few peo­ple.

The first time I had sex I was just 14. Look­ing back, I wish I’d waited, but at the time all my friends were do­ing it.

It was a cou­ple of years un­til I had sex again, but by the time I reached univer­sity, although I had a few re­la­tion­ships, the truth was I pre­ferred the ex­cite­ment of those early days – be­ing un­able to keep your hands off each other, those ner­vous but­ter­flies – so they al­ways fiz­zled out.

Af­ter grad­u­at­ing, I got a job as a me­dia ex­ec­u­tive. I worked hard but par­tied hard too. Sleep­ing with strangers was never some­thing I re­gret­ted.

Then, in 1996, I met David*. I wanted more from him than just sex and he balanced out my loud per­son­al­ity. We got mar­ried 12 months later, but five years on, with my ca­reer re­ally tak­ing off, we sep­a­rated.

Af­ter that I threw my­self into go­ing out and meet­ing new peo­ple – and at least half the peo­ple I’ve slept with have been one-night stands.

I’m now in a happy re­la­tion­ship with my cur­rent part­ner of four years and he knows about my sex­ual his­tory. Like me, he doesn’t see any­thing wrong with it, but women are def­i­nitely seen in a worse light than men – it’s not fair.

The av­er­age num­ber of sex­ual part­ners a woman has is eight

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