My daughter is a bully
my daughter’s school asked me to come in and told me a girl in her class has said she bullies her. my daughter says it’s true – she’s sent this girl texts and messages on social media, but says it was a joke and she wasn’t the only one. They want her to go to what they call ‘restorative justice’, but is this necessary? Being labelled a bully is terrible and it may harm her chances of getting into a good university. How can I get them to back down?
Being labelled a bully is awful. Far worse is to be one, or to be bullied. Instead of automatically backing up your child, I think you need to look at her behaviour without the sort of denial she is indulging in. Where did she learn that, I wonder? What she did can’t be called a joke, and just because other people are that cruel doesn’t excuse your daughter from her responsibility for joining in – or leading it. I’m so relieved to hear the school are taking this seriously. She, and maybe you, should indeed take part in the initiative they offer. The organisation bullying.co.uk helps not only children who are victims of bullying, but the kids doing it and their parents. Get in touch via the website or on 0808 800 2222.